Tit Bits : Takin Back My Love . . . . . .

I had the most wonderful Saturday. On reflection as to why, I realised it was a Saturday drenched with NO EXPECTATION! How heavenly! It was just me with no role to play (brother, son, professional, leader, bait for potential husband) or no need to be anything else than what I was in that current moment.

When I look back at what I did when I was all with myself with no expectation, it was truly awesome to see what I gravitated towards in terms of activities. Dreaming, blogging, dancing to music, breathing purposefully, cooking, spending time having healing and insightful conversations, empowering others! These were just some of the themes that I spent my time doing.

The day was truly awesome and rewarding in ways I can't really explain. So today, as I feel rather reflective after an awesome day spent in bliss, with me and with loved ones, let's look for moments, periods or a day in our weeks to just be without expectation. Allow that freedom to just be you with no duty, mask or doing to fulfill an expectation whether self imposed or imposed by others.

Even if you just start off with an hour a week where all you do is just be with no distraction of duty calling.

Just a thought I had last night as I peacefully and with a huge smile entered dream land . . . . . .

xoxo

Digesting the New . . . . . Breakaway . . . . .

What would you say if I said that we all wear "Eye Lenses". They can serve as quite powerful assets or liabilities depending on where we find ourselves in life. A very interesting tool that helps us navigate the territory we call life. Heavily backed up by perception, insight, judgement and belief! I am constantly surprised by how MINDSET guides and allows the quality of experience we have in life.

This became very apparent to me of late as I see new doors opening before me. And as I make the choice to step through, I am realising how letting go of certain ideas of how I see myself do not serve me and that the new awaits. By new I speak of seeing myself and life in a NEW LIGHT!

Lately, I have noticed at HOW I DIGEST NEW IDEAS / CONCEPTS that impact me and my life!

This takes me back to my teens. I lived in a small town and knew I was different or at least not meant to live the life that I saw my community subscribe to! At 17 I realised that it was my attraction to men that was more than just me being their friend! Somehow I knew that all would be well when I left my home to study in the big city and gay mecca in South Africa. Cape Town if you did not know!

I dropped the view I had that I was a freak, bad or did not belong and that it was ok to let that part of me come out into the light and be real / tangible to me and the world! That door definitely opened and I am so grateful to this day that I stepped through it. I now see myself a person who just happens to love sharing himself with men. It still means that fundamentally I am a man, a son, a brother, a lover, a great professional , basically ME!

A reason why I love watching Oprah interviewing the stars. When they tell their stories of how they made it, there is an element of "luck" and being in the right place at the right time. But what is sooooooooo common between all of them is their MINDSET! How they see the see world and how that has worked out for them. A mindset which was a deep belief which lead to powerful expectation and then it happened.

I believe this is true for me as well. My mindset and powerful belief and expectation made me decide and convince my parents that Cape Town was it. Being ok with being gay lead to a wonderful experience at varsity and has followed me into the workplace where I can me and be respected for my talent rather than the way I live my life. Delicious indeed.

I am seeing more and more as layers peel away in me understanding me how mindset feeds deep powerful expectations. What intrigues me more is how you work that back from powerful expectation to mindset! Wonderful that you chose different simply by using free will, imagination and desire! But I suppose easier said than done?!?!?! Or is it really that difficult to dream? I noticed this concept when I asked one of mentees what turns her on and makes her happy! As confused as she was about life and herself, she could in 2 sentences tell me what it was she aspired to! We know, it is making it real that is our challenge!

Bringing it back to me, I am faced with opportunities from all angles that make me very very happy yet overwhelmed by all the limitless opportunities that are there to be crafted for my benefit. The abundance scares me sometimes. But that is a whole other topic for debate.

My career has taken off and I can see how it is beginning to soar all in the people I have to engage with lately, the volume of people that now follow me , moving to a more strategic focus and being trusted to guide / polish important business decisions and now looking to shape, bottle and sell VALUE! My personal life is also making shifts, I am feeling sexier as the days go by and I notice how I am getting different reactions as I go out there, my friendship circles are becoming soooooo diverse and delicious in what I am exposed to in terms of mindsets, beliefs and ways of living. I see how there is a need to breakaway from limiting mindset in how I live my day to day life and to step into the world that is before me which is the sole basis of the Project Bliss : Coming Home to CB. I am putting myself in a position to look at the way I live and if it was a "reality show", would I be front row and proud to have played a part in it!

Anyhoo, all I really wanted to say is that imagination / desire / fantasy / dreaming is there to bring you to the door that you can step through to experience what simply makes you happy and feels good. Look at how you digest new ideas and concepts that get presented to you!

It could be something as simple as seeing yourself (in career) operating at your boss's level. Does it sit comfortably, does it excite you, could expect that you would rock at that? For us single career slaves, seeing yourself as a loving, committed husband/wife that has all the time for their family to share those precious loving moments? Even more scarier ideas that you are good enough just as you are right now! That you are capable to create the life you desire and that all the tools, ability and knowledge are already with you!

So open up, embrace, digest and simply breakaway from your current level in life! I am seeing that when your mind is in the right place, inspired action is rather easy as your luck (Universal guidance and protection) is with you . . . . The beauty of what my life is today validates that to me xoxoxo

Tit Bits : Frozen . . . . . Calling Mr Flinstone!

You would have noticed a slide show of Eddie Cibrian. I think that he is sooooooo sexy! I think it was that episode of Dirty Sexy Money where he did that towel scene that just reminded me what a hunk he is. And seeing him on Ugly Betty later was just all too delicious! Anyhoo, I have realised that it is time to start opening up to men. I can see my wedding day funnily enough, but it is the path to that I am interested in for now. My wedding day will come and boy will be something to remember. I am the go BIG type of guy! hehehehehehe

Anyhoo! So I have been surrounding myself with Eddie images and having quite a few pleasant mind trips with Eddie playing the leading man in my blissful and deliciously scripted dreams. I am figuring that it is a matter of time before an Eddie lookalike or somebody that reminds me of Eddie shows up! Right?!

I can vouch that on two occasions it did happen which did really get me thinking, this thing could actually work.

So I was in Cape Town at one of my favourite hang outs. It is like a Sunday ritual for the locals to take to this place and enjoy good food made from love and just chill and catch up. I was sitting on a bench and my pals on the hay. And then he approached, my Eddie lookalike! He walked right up to me and asked me if the seat next to me was taken! I was like it is free (outward reaction) and OMG! Jackpot Universe (all on the inside!!!). As I started figuring out what to say, he called to someone and then she came. His girlfriend!!!!!!! Anyhoo, I left that experience in shock at how similar he was to Eddie. It was looking at his younger brother!

Then there was breakfast with my closest mates (Sex and the City gals) at my most favourite hangout for breakfast over great conversation. What was funny is that I was telling my friends about my Eddie experiment and what happens! Another Eddie lookalike sits at the table next to us. I am like ok 2nd time is the charm! Rubbing my hands in anticipation of a great feast! Yum Yum! And then his girlfriend shows up 5 minutes later and that is where it is.

So I am left scratching my head. I feel like I am signalling a mixed signal. There is the blissful and happy Eddie vibe but I suspect there is also another strong signal going along. If I just look at circumstance, I suspect the "I am not available and there is no time to be with you and how do I make space for you?" vibe! At least I know that the place to meet them is at my favourite hangouts. LOL!

So here is to releasing that. It is about making the time and space for my Eddie! hehehehehehe. If anything it is fun!

Take care xoxoxoxoxo . . . . . . . will keep you posted!

Tit Bits : The pile up of MAIL! . . . Phase 1

I was at the theatre last night watching one of our great talents in South Africa named Nataniel! It was a great show but he spoke about the pile up of mail he started receiving ever since he started working and got his own space. This really hit home for me. I thought about me and how I have let mail pile up in my house. I have just ignored all that is piling up in my home.

I have noticed how I feel that everyone wants attention at work and a piece of my time and some action from me to which I switch off where I can and avoid their constant nagging. But on a smaller scale in my immediate personal space, there is all my mail screaming for attention. Invites, Bank Letters, Insurance Updates, Free Gifts and lucky me with tons of new credit available if I just say yes!

I am on this mission of creating space so that I can come home to the real, amazing and full me!!!!!!! As I expect to come home everyday to amazing man, lover and husband, I really have to ask if I swapped him out and put me in that place for a little while, would I want to come home to me and how I live today?

Hence the baby steps people!

So today is a simple quest I have set for myself because I do tend to overdo it want to over-achieve by doing too much at the same time. I will get through the mail that has been piling up for sooooooooooooooooooooo long. I am going to collect and sort. Then I will address them with the same attention and respect and give them their moment to make a request on me and take action.

Onward I go . . . . . . . . .with a loaded iPod, a basket and the open land of mail that is scattered across my apartment . . . . . xoxo

Label Launches . . . . . . .

I have had a brilliant morning so far. Breakfast at my favourite spot with my favourite pals. Very sex and city sit around a table, chatting away type breakfast! So on the way home and after the morning errands of food for the house etc, I realised it was time to add a few more labels to the blog.

I did a clean up of labels at the start of the new year. I figured simplify as best I knew. So from a host of labels, I reduced to a very few. The primary being Release Work and Inspired Livin.

Release Work generally relates to work that I have to do where I offer resistance, avoidance or struggle to let the truth just be!

Inspired Livin is all about the simple pleasure, energising, fluffy, light stuff. The stuff that bliss is made of. The take off want to love the whole world type of stuff.

Now introducing . . . . . . . .

Tit Bits which focuses on the little / practical / from living life stuff! Just a reminder to me of how I making all this bliss stuff practical in my life.

And . . . . . .

Bliss Projects which are the themes I work with the live in the ultimate joy and bliss that I am after.

Happy reading and chat soon . . . . . . . . . xoxo

Speaking your truth! What is the HIT rate?

The past couple of days have been particularly stressful for me. I have been caught in the middle of so much. So many people wanting a piece of my time, my brain, for me to do something and then "NAGGING" for it. That is probably the bottom line. I have been constantly nagged!. It was all feeling turbulent by the end as it just all added up.

Yet through all this stormy adventure, I kept forging ahead with remembering strong moments and trying my best to have more of them. I was drawn to the concept that those strong moments are really my truth! That is the essence of me and my soul's voice on loudspeaker when I fully embrace and choose to be in those moments! And then my question. . . . . . . .



Just how high was my hit rate of strong moments during a typical day? How often is my truth real in my day-to-day life?


Speaking your truth takes on so many forms as I have seen this past week. It is speaking up for myself from a place of authenticity. This is not a place of judgement or self righteousness, but more a place of where I am and how I am experiencing a situation. It is standing by my beliefs and intentions when the world calls me on it. It is deciding to play big when I am asked to and embrace the cards in front of me.


It is in one's decisions and in the choices when the decision does not work out or works out. It is when the pressure is on and your back is up against the wall and then you play a card. It is going beyond your internal chatter, judgement and noise and seeing a person, a situation or experience from a higher perspective than just what your world is!

I have been very drawn to a couple of words that stand out when I find myself reading text on anything. TRUTH and SAFE! I am beginning to see the correlation between what makes us feel safe is what we tend to try and keep around and strong in our lives. Whether it is good or bad for us is not the bottom line. It is what makes us feel safe that drives the reality! Is that not the basis of our relevant beliefs?

A truth that feels safe to us! (Whether good or bad. There is no difference!)

We can trust it because we know it, it is tested and all outcomes are familiar and comforting to us. That is probably why we steer quickly and effortlessly to certain behaviour when we put in situations that bring out our survival mode. So turning up the heat, pressure, challenge exposes what we believe to the world. Then there is the other side, when we really do not have to, when there is no perceived gain, how do we behave? Would you do something if there was no-one watching? Is working hard your driver because you get joy or because someone praises you and your worth is validated by money or reputation?

When I bring this back to strong moments, there is wisdom in understanding why they feel so great! What switches go on inside you in those moments.

And once we unpack it, look at desire at the surface value, work through that "ring of fire" (release work!) and move to our core or soul. That is where truth lies. I borrow this from Martha Beck who explains this concept beautifully.

And we know what truth should really feel like. We burn with aliveness, we feel desire course through our bodies that is delicious, energising and primal! There is pleasure and bliss. You want to take off and soar. You feel limitless. That is what living your truth offers.



I celebrate the notion that every experience is an opportunity to express your truth! That truth that sits deep within your soul. So when you look at your typical day! When you add up all up all those strong amazing moments which in essence represents your life! What is the hit rate of truth? How often are you living in strong energising moments? Is it 50%, 60% or 80%?


I am willing to go as far as to say that the happiest people I know can confidently stand up and quote me high hit rates! Just some food for thought!


xoxo



"Your truth is there to be experienced! It shines brightly to guide you through the ocean that is life! Seek your light!"