CrazeeBee Love : What's Your Number

In the CB love section this week, I am giving a shout out and lots of love to the movie "What's your number".  It is hilarious and pleasantly surprising how Chris Evans turns out to be more of a man that I saw him to be.  And this speaks to the characters he plays and not him personally (sorry Chris!).  I loved how his character unfolded in the movie and became more lovable, adorable and awesome as the movie continued.  Sometimes it is great to get that guy that is there to help to unpack your baggage and help you get to just being you.  Yum!!!!   So if you in the mood for a funny rom-com, I do recommend this.  Enjoy!

The Story Of The Shape Shifter

This week's tale of insight is around the form in which your desires are currently manifesting into.  I read about this concept that we have all we need.  We just need to recognise the current form it is in.  If it is not in our desired form, it can be transformed.  That is as far as I got.  The transforming side of things I am still working on.  But there is some truth in recognising the form of what your desire is currently manifested in.

Seeing that we are on Man Awesomeness month, let's take your perfect relationship with your perfect man.  For some the perfect relationship can be currently manifested in a solid strong amazing friendship.  It could be a work relationship or a person you know from your sports club or someone you go to class with.  How you are with them lives out your desire.  And that says something about where you comfortable playing to experience being your perfect relationship with your perfect man.

I do see that as you drop baggage and peel away misunderstandings and make decisions to tell yourself a different story, that the form or status quo does start to shift.  I have realised that my bliss zones are definitely in the emotional and mental areas of what I call perfect relationships.  And the physical area was not always something I used to balance well.  It somehow used to get de-prioritised when going for the bliss factors in a relationship.  So every perfect relationship for me in the past has been one where the physicality could never manifest fully!  It was always deep and amazing within the mental and emotional areas.  So examples of the perfect man relationships I had were predominately straight men that I had amazing connections with and it never went further than amazing mental and emotional connections.

As I have learnt to balance the areas in my life and unpacking making different choices for my happiness, so do I see how the shifts have happened in my life.  So whether you are attached or single, the same concept applies to you.  You will manifest on a form that best serves where your desire and priorities are currently settled!  The good news, it can change when you story inside changes! Go Strong!

CB Awesome Man List : The Men That Made A Difference

If one looks back, there have definitely been men that have played a significant role in our path to date.  I can surely look back and see now with love the roles they played in my life and how it shaped my insight and deepened my wisdom.  I could see myself from a different angle and know myself deeper as a result.  This is a thank you to them for taking me deeper to know who I am.  My key takeaways :


5 - My First Love - I have something special inside that is beautiful and worth loving.  And sometimes it is up to me to love that most of the time
4 - My First Serious Boyfriend - Intimacy requires you both to feel equal to each other to open up and grow together
3 - My Dad - We are perfectly human and it pays to put your trust on the principles of love rather than a human being
2 - My Hero - I have those great traits within me, I just need the courage to acknowledge and let it shine within me
1 - Me - I am open and aware and that staying humble and curious allows me to learn and grow to bliss

What have been your key takeaways from the men that have made a difference?

Next To You

I was very grateful for this weekend past.  It allowed me to have some breakthroughs on what I was really feeling deep inside.  I could not understand with everything going relatively well why I was so down and carrying negative energy.  Something was nagging at me and I just let it be until the weekend.  But with some breathing space, I discovered what it was all about.  I will share in due time.  I just need some time to process it for myself.

Having said that, there is nothing like a good sweet song to make me smile.  This is one of them.  For the single folk, this can be a great one to get you closer in though and feeling to the man that is perfect for you.  For the attached, just a good excuse to cuddle and appreciate your man.  Either way, it rocks to have them close to you.  Hugz

Some Inspiration : Vision Of Love

I love the sentiment of this song.  The words say it all.  So soak in the Vision Of Love you have yourself and your life and set them free.  Know that the blessings will unfold for you!  Mwah!

Treated me kind

Sweet destiny

Carried me through desperation

To the one that was waiting for me

It took so long

Still I believed

Somehow the one that I needed

Would find me eventually

I had a vision of love

And it was all that you've given to me

Prayed through the nights

Felt so alone

Suffered from alienation

Carried the weight on my own

Had to be strong

So I believed

And now I know I've succeded

In finding the place I conceived

I had a vision of love

And it was all that you've given to me

I had a vision of love

And it was all that you've given me

I've realized a dream

And I visualized

The love that came to be

Feel so alive

I'm so thankful that I've received

The answer that heaven

Has sent down to me

You treated me kind

Sweet destiny

And I'll be eternally grateful

Holding you so close to me

Prayed through the nights

So faithfully

Knowing the one that I needed

Would find me eventually

I had a vision of love

And it was all that you've given to me

I had a vision of love

And it was all that you

Turned out to be

CrazeeBee Love : French plus Rugby = Yum

Watched a Rugby game the other day and got to see Frederic Michalak in action.  He is French, Sporty and Adorable!  He also gets the latest most kissable award from CrazeeBee.  So sending out love to an awesome rugby player.  So happy he lives and plays in South Africa.  We have welcomed him into our land to stay and enjoy.  Delight in this sexy adorable man.

Figuring It Out

One thing some of us tend to forget is just how human the man is that is perfect for us is.  When a man in our life plays the prince charming role, is our saviour, gives us safety, gives us comfort, it gets difficult for us when he surrenders into what is human about him.  To be fully human means that he has times when he is insecure, overloaded with his challenges and dealing with himself.

The trick to figure out is how we understand that and how we get a clue that in some areas we need to take responsibility.  He does not always need to carry and solve our need to feel safe, feel loved and feel like we matter.  Just simply by us being open to understand and give him the space to be off the hook, we open up a space to love him as he is and give him room to be himself.

This has been a "AHA" I have recently had.  Someone very dear to me, needed his space to sort out his challenges.  Being one of my heroes and rocks, it really got me scared about how I could go on without  his full attention on approving how I was doing.  I have also realised that he could not really be himself around me when he was down or going through something difficult as it was always about what he was doing for me.  The burden of being a hero to someone!  I do realise that it was a huge wake up for me to take some responsibility in some areas of my life.

So my tale today is that create a space for the man that is perfect for you to be himself and be perfectly human. And it starts with figuring out the clues of where you need to take responsibility for yourself.  You can figure it out!

The CB Awesome Man List : Sports

The sportsman!  Nothing more to say than just yum yum!  I love the mindset they need to have to focus and zone out and just do what they need to get the job done.  There are times they need to wear their heart on their sleeves and throw it all in there to win the game.  So here is the celebrating the spirit and sexiness of the sportsman.  Crazeebee's top 5 sportsmen.  Take a wild guess which is my favourite sport :

5 - Rory Kockott - A quirky and lovable South African rugby player.  Love him to bits and purely because of that huge adorable factor!

4 - Ryk Neethling - He is a South African treasure and we love him.  He brought home the gold and made his country very proud.  More than that, he is one of those good guys with a good heart and great gentle nature.  He is a sweetie!

3 - Ben Cohen - Another sexy rugby player.  I am very touched by how he has taken to such a great cause and making a difference.  But he is still yummy regardless.

2 - Michael Sullivan - A very sexy rugby player from down under.  He smolders and has this gentle strength to him.  Love it!

1 - Novak Djokovic - He has the best sense of humour and has so much fun.  Gotta love the tennis world number 1.  He is adorable, funny and loads of fun!

Call Me Maybe

I love meeting someone new and there is that spark!  That sense that there is something there and that it can go somewhere very cool.  You can feel the excitement, the connection and the want from both sides to explore it further.  Celebrate it!  It is awesome!

Adore Minute : Love Me At Your Best

I had one my AHA's the other day.  I do love it when they come about.  How many of us want a man to need us?  And what does needing us mean?  Does it mean that we are there to make their problems go away or help them through their struggle?  Are we there to keep them honest and keep being the better man they would like to be?  The bottom line is that some of us want a man to really need us and equate that to love!  The measure of his love is on how much he needs us around and how useful we are to them

But what if a man loved us on his best day and we could feel and know that?  When he did not need us to make him feel better or like a man.  His life is perfect and he loves us just because he can.  How powerful would that be to have him see us and love us when all he wants to just to have us for us.

I guess we are all human and will always "need" something.  And there will be "best" days and "needy" days.  What is awesome is seeing how he can love us  through those good and bad days that he has.  Here is to adoring men that show us love on their best days.  When they don't need us but love us anyway because of who we are.  Awesome!

Adore Minute : Bless Prince Charming

I really got into a bit of trouble the other day.  I left my man-bag at a restaurant with my car keys, house keys and wallat in it.  I discover said man-bag missing the evening as I was getting ready to go home.  The restaurant was closed so I was left stranded! But what I can say is that everything worked out.

Lots came together to make it happen.  I had a prince charming, the very reliable best friend and the angels that had my back.  Prince Charming made sure I got back home safely, angels blessed me and kept my bag safe for collection the next morning (honest people exist, Amen) , prince charming collected it and kept it safe for me.

So this is just to celebrate the prince charmings out there that just do what they need to to help us out when we need it.  Bless them!

The CB Awesome Man List : TV

We all watch TV and yes some men can really appeal to us.  So from the TV I do manage to get in, below find the men that get the CB nod and love.  They are simply awesome awesome awesome!  Find out why . . . . . . . .








Five : Open Space : I really could not find anyone else on the level on the others.  That loving, caring, being strong within themselves nature.  So let's keep this space open for someone new to teach and inspire a different or new perspective.  Amen!

Four : Blaine Anderson : It is just such a huge tease that he is straight playing a gay role but he plays the gay role very well and I love the Blaine character in the series.  Looking at Kurt and how he is open and has a flamboyant streak.  I love that Blaine can love that and see the beauty in that.  Also, he is a strong and loving character.  And he has the moves!  Yum!

Three : Keanu Reeves In The Lake House : Loved his openness to discover and share himself with someone else.  Was very romantic and hot.  Also that Lake House was awesome and a wonderful creation.  And come on, Keanu is just hot and adorable all in one.

Two : Jason Hoppy : Another hunky strong sensitive and loving man.  I love how he allows his partner to be crazy and yet by being himself, he grounds and brings a calmness.  Also a sexy one in his open and gentle heart.  Love him!

One : Bill Rancic :  He is just the all in one.  He is driven, responsible for his happiness and such a wise one.  I love how he is with his partner.  Honest, Nurturing, Funny, Supportive, Loving.  I love how he allows her to be who she is but also keeps her honest with her being responsible for herself. Very cool!

We Just Ordinary People

So this song has been playing recently quite a bit around me.  I figured that I post it for us all to enjoy.  This song does remind one that you have go with figuring out what is in front of you with your man.  It is about putting truth on the table and being open to listen and take in what it means when you understand where he is coming from.

If there is one thing that is becoming more and more clear to me, it is that there is a courage required to listen to your partner tell you truth.  There is a grace you need to embrace and a strength to understand that you need to grow into something better and take in what is being said or what reflects for you to take note of.  It's tough but when you brave enough to embrace that new level that calls you, it can be awesome for you and the relationship.

That is what makes a strong, lasting love connection.  Staying strong and flexible to let it unfold and take you to be the best you can be.  Go strong!

Adore Minute : Loving Your Cuddle-Worthiness!

Today's adore minute is a simple yet yummy one.  Today, let's say thank you and amen to men that love to cuddle with us.  You know, somedays it is just physically feeling close to someone and breathing them in, feeling them close with their energy, warmth and love.  Yum Yum!

So Thank You rockstar men that love just  being and cuddling sometimes.  Yay!

Adore Minute : Finding Our Way Back To Truth

So this has been an interesting week.  Connections with the special ones in our lives are never always smooth sailing.  What always amazes me is how with love, patience and understanding, you can find your way back to your connection.  Even more amazing, is when you can get that right with the special men in your life.

I can see that there will be times that you can get insecure with your man and question his intentions for you and relationship.  You can get disappointed and hurt by them but who is to say that what you understand the situation to be is the way it should be.  So I would like to honor that when you open your mind and heart and look to understand the man you love beyond just when the times are good, that you will find a way to getting that connection strong and finding a way back to truth.  And when that happens, it is really amazing as you back in a position of choice for next step.

So here are to the men that are strong enough to share and be honest with you to help you both find your way back to truth.

Adore Minute : At Your Best You Are Love

We are all human and we all have those times when we are confused and we hurt those we supposedly care about.  Today was just one of those days for me.  Someone I admire, love and adore very much disappointed me in a very big way.  And it caused me to question my trust in their intentions.

But throughout knowing him, I do know there is so much more good to him than this moment he had today where I felt insulted and disrespected by his behaviour. It got me thinking though.  It takes a balance and willingness to know deep truth to be able to work through that confusion and emotion and get back to knowing that At His Best He is Love.  So here is to knowing that we have our moments where we confused and hurt those we love or care about.  But it is being willing to accept the reality and go with understanding the truth that lies beneath the confusion.

This song does say it all for me.  Enjoy and have a super evening!

Loving Michael Buble

I will admit that I really enjoyed the Michael Buble concert this past weekend.  Now that is a sexy man and it has all to do with his charisma and swag.  He has such a great on stage style.  Funny, witty, naughty and boyish.  Loved it all.  So what I loved is how he introduced this song.  He wrote this for all of us out there to get hope that we will meet that someone that gets us and we can grow and love together.  He feels if it could happen to him, it can happen to us.  Here is to putting that out there.  Love Ya Michael Buble!

Adore Minute : Bless His Humble Nature

So as a gay man, I do get to participate in girl talk and contribute to the subjects on the table.  The goodness of a man or the badness of a man is the basic theme.  But these days, I have been blessed to be speaking more about the goodness of a man in my circles.  So one topic we have been discussing lately has been the "arrogance" or  the "sharp mind that can be devious".  So it stands to reason that the man with true and honest intentions for loving you goes to the top of the list.

So my vote goes to Jason Hoppy!  I loved him in Bethanny Getting Married.  He was sweet, strong and honest in his intentions.  So bless that the type of honesty, humbleness and good intentions.  My girlfriends went for Josh Groban.  I have been to one of his concerts but he is a darlin as well from what I saw at his concert. So today, we adore the humbleness within good men and men with good and honest intentions.  Those strong enough within themselves to let their warmth from inside shine out!  CB loves that and is saying thanks to those wonderful men that can do that!  Mwah!

Adore Minute : Separate Togetherness

I am in the wonderful Sun City area for the weekend for the Michael Buble concert.  I am very excited as all my friends that have attended are all raving about how good his concerts have been.  To add to my happy mood, I have some wonderful scenery in front of me.  Noted in the pic above!  Yummy indeed.   But it is what is happening next to me that I am loving most of all.

So there is this very cute couple.  The lady is chilling and reading her kindle and her man is playing guitar in this soft, gentle, loving manner.  And it is beautiful soft and loving music.  Kinda like you in Europe in some romantic city with great atmosphere and love surrounding you.  Firstly that  man comes across very very HOT! hehehehehe  Nothing like a man in touch with his romantic side.

Just so sexy how he and his partner can just be in their zone together but separate.  They just so relaxed within themselves and comfortable with taking in the beauty around them ad each other.  Just being! Very sexy and very cool.  So adore it and bless them :)

Hope you having an awesome weekend wherever you are!  Will send updates on the uber cool Michael Buble!

Mwah!

Adore Minute : See The Best In The Situation

I was b1tching to one of my trusted advisors yesterday.  I was really disappointed in a person and situation I found myself in.  I was frustrated and irritated by having to take on additional tasks to get a certain job done.  To my surprise I noticed how he kept coming back to a balanced view and taking me back to seeing the situation and the person in a bigger context.  I was annoyed at first as it was always meant to be about me and my feelings!

But reflecting further on the wisdom he shared with me, it is very awesome how he is able to see the best in every situation and person.  And what an amazing trait to have that ability to look beyond the person, their behaviour in the moment and see the true goodness they are capable of.  And I can see why so many respect him and adore him.  He is able to see more to the person than the situation and behaviour in the moment of weakness or confusion.  He believes in the innate goodness and talent in people.

So thanks to him for being that inspiration to me!

Adore Minute : Walk Through The Open Door

I know this young and very amazing man.  There is a 10 year difference in our age, so the generation gap does exist.  I am amazed how one can learn from anyone in your life if you allow yourself to be open.  So we were hanging out the other day and we decided we would go for a walk around my estate.  Now I will admit, I was not one to explore the estate I live in but I decided to go with flow and do the nature walk.

I was pleasantly surprised by how adventurous he was and how he led the way in unfamiliar territory.  He went with the flow and took each step rather confidently as it showed up.  I was reminded of how one has to keep their curiosity and adventurous spirit and walk through the open doors that present themselves to you.  In most cases there is something rather cool on the other side.

So let's explore and take the step as it presents itself to us.

Adore Minute : I See Your Character!

I was at a dinner party the other night and I met an very sweet and awesome guy.  He was in a happy and strong relationship and that was so great for me to witness.  Somehow, we started speaking about our celebrity crushes and with an iPad nearby we could just go online and show what we were speaking about.  So when I showed him a pic of my celebrity crush, he said something that really got me thinking.  He told how he was not interested in all the skin pics and preferred seeing someone's eyes or face to see their character.  PS : The pic I chose to show him was shirtless pic ;)

It really got me thinking about how we see the men we meet.  If we are willing to look into them and see their character and be ready to like, adore or love that, how different would our experience of them be.  At the end of the day, I would also liked to be known and loved for who I am on the inside.  Why would it be different for another person?

So this post is to adore the concept of Looking Into Someone To See The Beauty Of Their Character!  Love It!

May 2012 : Man Awesomeness

I really enjoyed the A to Z blog challenge during April.  I have been inspired for May to speak about the Awesomeness Of The Men in Our Lives.  I have come to realise that I do have a specific view of men.  Yes I have my template that I use to tick their worthiness against.  And to be frank, it is not like it is working for me getting someone worth investing time and getting to know.  But it looks like I am not the only one that has a template.  I am one of the masses in the gay community that works on a template.  But there the lucky ones in the gay world that look at the beauty within and take someone for who they are.  And yes, they actually find happiness.

I do see how I play my part in strengthening the community's view of what makes a good and worthy man.  All you need to do is go online and you can start seeing what is out there in terms of the "standard"  How many of us buy into it or support it by coveting men that fit that standard.  Some phrases that I have come to see out there : "Straight Acting" "No Fem" "No Fats" "Muscular wanting same" "Fit wanting same" These are mostly followed by pics of sixpacks, torsos or some form of skin.  So that is what can be the standard available for some or most to buy into.  And please don't get me wrong.  This is not me saying there is no place for it and it is bad.  If that is what works for some, it works.  For me, I am looking for that relationship that takes me deeper into understanding me, love and someone else.  So it does stand to reason, that I would struggle to get that out it if all I saw in a guy was how well his torso and abs looked and did not bother to know the person behind that.  One would need to look deeper than that!

So I have decided to take a journey this month and celebrate a man on more that what he looks like.  So join me as we celebrate the awesomeness of the men we know and men we will meet during this month.  Whether you straight or gay, the men in your life bring an amazing quality and let's celebrate that.  I will be posting a daily "Adore" post over and above my usual posts which will be my way of recognizing and loving the good in the men I meet and know.

So let us celebrate the awesomeness of the men in our lives.  Mwah!