Loving yourself! Always easier to say than actually do. And wow is it even easier when someone loves you despite all your self hatred. You can get used to someone else making you feel better about who you are. But the truth no matter how much we want to deny it is that when you can look at yourself warts and all and say, I love you for who you are, then the fun begins in your life to truly enjoy the blessings life has to offer. No getting away from that my Darlins! Some things I have noticed :
- No matter how many big gestures and ends of the earth adventures someone goes to to make you happy, it will never really make you happy if it ain't aligned to what you believe about yourself. So the logical place is to start with what you believe about your lovability
- Be willing to truly see who you are warts and all. And especially the warts. Embrace the disgust, the hate, the fear, whatever it is that you do not want to feel. Behind that feeling is the truth that allows you to step forward to start loving who you are
- You cannot make love in armor! So whatever walls you have or armor stops you from truly feeling loved and giving love. Start lovingly looking at breaking down that wall and letting that special light shine
- You have the power and choice to love yourself! It does seem impossible but you do. It can start with something as simple as being willing to consider the idea of what it would be like to simply give yourself a hug with love. Have a weekly ritual where you spoil just you and forget the world. Make love with yourself through hot baths, facials, luxurious moisturizing, loving touch etc. Learn to love you in that way!
- Visualise yourself soaked and bathed in soft, light pink light. Cocoon yourself in it and imagine it soaking through and filing you. Pink is the colour of unconditional love. Visually bathing in it helps!
Great tips. I have always had a really really hard time loving myself. My crappy self esteem and 'that voice' in my head puts me down to no end. It's been easier now that I have a man who is crazy about me, but I still suffer from bad self esteem esp. after visiting w/ my mom.
ReplyDeleteI hear you. There are voices that echo what we carry inside. But I promise that the magic starts when you have a sit down with that voice and really start understanding if it really is true what that voice says. If we can logically dismiss that that sky is green even if someone says it is, we can do it for the more subtle stuff! Who says we gotta believe that inner critic? Hugz
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