I spent some more time with Wiseman Nos 7 this morning. As always it is great bonding with him but we touched on a very very interesting topic. Men being vulnerable! For me when a man is vulnerable, it simply means he loves me and so the fantasy of our life together kicks in. I could not help but wonder. Do we mistake someone being vulnerable as them loving us? Ever consider that maybe they are just wanting a safe place to get clarity and not necessarily take on our affection for them! hmmmmmmmmmmmm . . . . .
Imagine you had to look out in the distance and you saw this "blob" of whatever approaching you! You cannot really make out what it is, but it is coming towards you and definitely is on your path. For the split piece of time before you become familiar with what it is, what goes through your mind? Are you excited or are you nervous about the blob? Are you expecting something awesome or something scary?
For me, the answer that comes from the above questions has so much to do with what we believe we deserve! It is also amazing at how it differs from person to person and how it differs from aspect to aspect in our lives. It permeates what you feel you deserve in your career, relationships, living space and even how you treat yourself.
Our parents, God Bless them, have played their part in teaching us how to deserve. Think back to the days when you wanted stuff as a child how it all went down to you expressing a desire and what unfolded to it either being a reality or different to what you desired. For some it was as easy as asking and then simply getting it. For some, there might have been a whole lot of emotional baggage laid on them, some could have received strings when they got what they wanted and others well simply got told to let it go and accept living without it!
And so we carry that with us today if we have not already chosen to see our worthiness differently. I do see that from my experience, that what I wanted came with cost of someone suffering. That is all I vividly remembered. I would normally get what I wanted but someone had to suffer so that I could get what I desired. That could be that my siblings were denied something or even my parents were denied goodness so that my desires were fulfilled.
So it is no wonder that responsibility carried such heaviness for me in my life. The more and more I wanted and got what I wanted, the more I had this pull to what was going to happen to those I love that will make them suffer. What would happen to them that I would need to take care of them because getting all my desires is great and it is a matter of time will the suffering of those I love kick in.
It makes no sense at all but as a child what really makes sense is all relative. The power is that it is a belief / an expectation and that is all that life needs to go on and make reality for you. So look out into the distance and see that “blob” heading your way. Start noticing how you feel about it! If you believe you deserve all the great in life, I can bet you are pretty excited at what is approaching. If not, maybe there is a wonderful opportunity to check in on your current standpoint of what you believe you deserve. The change in perspective, could unlock some unexpected treasures to getting what you desire. . . . . . . . . .
I had the most amazing journey of insight this past weekend. I have finally received a framework of responsibility that has changed my perspective.
Responsibility has always been a heavy word and one that made me feel obliged! So it is not about "What is the right thing to do" whether I like it or not! The power now lies in seeing as . . . . . . . .
What does this situation truly call for from my core? What is the best response I can possibly make to this situation/challenge?
I have not seen the current Wiseman Nos 7 in my life for sooooo long. As life happened, we got to spend the morning together and it was awesome. I am grateful that I got to spend such quality time with him. As always, it was a blast.
I loved the way we could chat and laugh at life!
He has the greatest smile and is just so much fun to be around
So in the spirit of what Wiseman Nos 7 offers. Enjoy this delicious song!
I am soooo invested in understanding how to create a space to attract Wiseman Nos 7 into my life. I do appreciate the blockages I have but something hit me this weekend that really inspired me to take some action. When you look at your immediate surroundings, how are they supporting what you want out of life? If you took a walk about in your home/living space, what does it really say about what you want in life?
I mean let's take the bedroom for example and what it represents to most out there! It is the space for most where they lay their body to rest and re-rejuvenate, a place to breathe and disappear from the world and for most, a place where you enjoy some great physical intimacy! Today, if you saw your bedroom for the first time, what feeling would it give you just being in its presense?
How many of us have the bedroom in a state where you want to spend time in there and love the energy of what it offers? From my life perspective, being a typical boy type bachelor, my bedroom was simply a mess of clothes all over with no real place for anything inside the room. So by it being a mess, I really was ashamed to let anyone into that room especially if he was an overnight guest. The timing had to be perfect! That means I needed a day or so to temporarily make the problem go away by cleaning up the room. But long term the mess would creep back because I did not do it properly. How is that for my current situation with relationships. I need to time to be perfect to consider them. Interesting!
So this weekend, I spent it painfully going through all the stuff. I decided to bring some clarity to the room. So I started with something simple. What I did not need in the bedroom had to leave and I attempted to do a first attempt to find a place for stuff. The room's energy has taken on a beautiful inviting peacefulness. Love it!
But now, I can see clearly see its potential of what it can become when I apply some creativity to it. Yes, I got some great ideas for how to re-decorate it but what I love, is that I now see the future vision of it more clearly.
I have no idea if this will make that big a difference to the bigger picture of life but I do know deep down that it did sooooo much for my mental atmosphere. It was very symbolic of getting clear inside and making space for the greater and new to come in. All I can do is enjoy the room's new energy and watch this space. And it cost me absolutely nothing to create that space.
So I am willing to bet that if you looked a little more closer, there is a physical representation somewhere in your house of your state mind. And sometimes, by putting some love and energy in that space, helps shift some mental stuff inside. What have you to lose by giving it a try?
Like with all things in life! It is all about balance and remembering the bigger picture of who we are! Simply put, we are meant to be happy, light and experience the best that is out there! Yes, we get distracted and obsess or focus a little too much on an aspect in life that brings no real return to us or avoid dealing with an aspect out of fear.
But at the end of it all, when you surrender to the bigger picture of you, you come back to the middle, the core of your truth! That you are worthy and entitled to an awesome happy experience in your adventures! Be Blessed!
Are Distractions not the best?!?!?! You don’t get to feel or experience the pain! You get to be “protected” from pain or dealing with the yucky stuff. You buy some time before the crash and that is better because you just cannot deal with it right now. Maybe later you will be ready to deal with consequences but not today!
There is also the view that certain foundations/areas make up the success of what you see as a great life. So we go into obsession of those foundations and forget the bigger picture as we simply get lost in the detail of the make up of what makes us happy!
But distractions really are the lies we tell ourselves through denial or alternate reality to not look at what is really there! We simply lose sight of the bigger picture of who we are and the core desires that go with that knowing of ourselves!
It is amazing how it manifests itself in various ways. From the couple who decides that having a child is the most precious experience and then there are complications! We have all seen how that puts the relationship through some challenges and the potential to put the love for each on hold for the sake of creating a baby does creep in! There is the person who decides that they will be the best that they can be in their career and want to set ablaze the industry with their brilliance. Yet they forget that to truly take it to that level means knowing who you really are. That when you successful and in charge of who you are, that is allows for the outer world to take note and respond! There is also the person who has had a rough life! As the young defenseless kid, what happened to them was harsh and not really fair! But regardless, they have choice and so they use their choice to hurt others as they have been hurt. You have met them, those always grumpy, angry, nasty people! I mean you just say hello and they will find a way to turn that into an insult and spit some venom your way.
But the one I find the most interesting is the distraction from our various communities. Our work peer group, our families, our religion, our culture and even within our close friendship circles! Through comparison and competition, we have the potential to get caught up in the currents those offer and get swept away in trying to keep up and so we lose sight of our bigger picture!
It is quite simple to know where you are on the distraction scale! Search your heart of hearts for your true desires and simply ask where it is physically in your life? I am very sure if there is still some yearning and frustration for its lack, then something is definitely blocking it and it lies on what is distracting you from enabling your truth’s manifestation!
I borrow an example from my life. One of my dominant desires is amazing, healing, warm, safe intimacy and feeling unconditional sexiness within me! Because I cannot feel that unconditional sexiness within me, I have turned to what I believe I am awesome at in the intellectual space. So I am working harder, getting involved in so much at to keep busy, effective and proving my intellectual supremacy to myself and the world. But the core of my sexiness is how I see my body. No amount of work accolades are going to help me until I start dealing with loving the physical. When I start looking in a mirror and see my well padded tummy and start loving it, my desire to feel unconditional sexiness is blocked! So I am aware that the harder I work, one of the key reasons is that I am feeling not sexy!
So go ahead! Ask the question and let it unfold for you. You know your bigger picture. You know what will truly make the experience of your life its best. What is distracting you from living your best life? I dare you to ask yourself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Like a Pyramid (the essence of you), stand tall and after the desert storms of life, there the truth of you will stand through the test of time! Be brave to simply see it as it is . . . . . . . . .
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