Your H.O.T Factor

You look in the mirror and what do you see?  Do you see a stud, a goddess, a vixen, an adonis?  How high would you rate your attractiveness?  Usually I find that we measure our attractiveness based on the external feedback we receive from friends or the men who give us the kind of attention that makes us giggle to ourselves like we're back being teenagers ;)

This is the episode where Miranda feels like she is not hot enough.  It starts off with her friends discussing threesomes and then end up speaking about who they would do it with and Miranda is not on the list.  Miranda has a series of nightmares about being isolated and uses therapy as a means to get clear.  She ends up responding to an advertisement for a threesome and finally gets her validation when the couple finds her to be hot.

Your H.O.T factor is bigger than just what you look like.  It has to do with the energy you carry and transmit.  And your energy is a combination of the way you look, your attitude and your state of love for yourself.  I don't believe Miranda was not attractive.  She just had a hard edge and an aggressive energy.  I mean that is far from inviting to anyone.

There is nothing more profound to being attractive.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there are billions of beholders out there in this world.  So it comes down to what you are able to see in the mirror and appreciate it for what it is.  When you are able to shed the filters that allow you to see the true beauty of something, then only do you become attractive.  It is more about the energy a person carries for me than anything else.

So go on.  Ignite that energy and share the best of it with the world. Mwah

5 Things From LIfe As It Is . . .

Life has been super duper crazy and somehow it has all come together for me to have a space to be me and count my blessings.  I am happy and that is what counts.  Mwah!

1. When you ask for Universal support in any of your ventures, you will be pleasantly surprised at how effortlessly success will come together for you.  You will always seem to be in the right place at the right time to do the right thing and get awesome results.  The list of how this has happened in my life is long and makes me feel so blessed ;)
2. Cherish the people that allow a space for healing and beautiful conversation and connection.  Soooooo good to get a dose of that this past weekend
3. It is awesome to re-create a healthier version of your sinful food pleasures!  I have been able to perfect my own chicken strips and spinach, "the burger" and omelette!  Love it!
4. Scored a wedding invite this year and very happy to be attending a wedding.  Always a treat to celebrate love!
5. Spring is rolling into Johannesburg and the air is thick with new beginnings.  Yay!

Bridge Over Troubled Water

There are times when life gets scary and dark.  It is a part of living.  As you go through your changes and work with pain and being overwhelmed, there is the feeling that you will never come out of the darkness and see the light.  I have found that no matter what, we cannot be broken or disconnected to the greatness of Divinity.  It is always there for us to connect to and take wisdom, safety, intelligence and guidance from.  It is simply remembering that we are connected to it and that it is there when we ask.  I love this song because it gives me the comfort that no matter what, I have access to a power to help me move forward and deepen my understanding of an experience.

If you can believe that this something bigger, wiser, stronger and powerful out there that you can connect to, then this song helps you get in that zone.  No matter what you going through this week, ask for guidance to see the next step.  I usually find that I get what I ask for.  Love CB

A Course In Weight Loss : Lesson 3 : Part 1

My apologies for this late late late post.  My past 2 weeks have simply been crazy and did not get a chance to complete this to post.  But trust you have had an awesome weekend so far!

This was a very soothing and comforting chapter.  It speaks of your relationship with a Higher Power and how you work with trusting and commanding the power from this Source.  It really speaks to what you put your faith in.  Is it fear, is it stuff that hurts you, is it hopelessness or is it in love and that there is something bigger that can take care of the stuff that holds you down and away from happiness.

What I found very fascinating was the concept that we learn to trust something bigger based on our relationships with our parents.  As we learn to trust in them to take care of us so we learn that there is something bigger, wiser and stronger than us that we can trust to help us on our way.  Parents are human and victims of victims and so our relationship with something bigger is tampered with and for some it is about finding their journey back to trusting in something bigger than themselves.

I can see in my life where I learnt to start trusting in me and my independence and hence my issues with having a God, a Higher Power or something grander and greater to believe in.  It simply made me a little hostile!  Hostile because nothing was done on my terms and my way and why must I do it your way in any case?  But all apart of learning to heal your relationship with that higher, wiser and all knowing power.

This lesson goes on to encourage one to build an altar of love.  A place where you can come and be and surrender to love and know that love rules versus anything else.  It is meant to be a place where you lay down and cherish all that is good and sacred to you.  I have called this part 1 because I am still building an altar that works for me in my home.

So far, I find my altar to be in my bathroom.  Not sure why but I am pulled to being in the bathroom where every morning for about 10 minutes, I have a cup of coffee and revel in the love that is in my life and that rules my life.  My vision board is also in my bathroom as well and I am able to connect with life.  I can also play a list of awesome songs that help me connect to that feeling place of peace and love.

So for this lesson, key themes included:

• Work on healing your relationship with something higher and wiser.  Start building and working with your ability to trust in this Higher Power
• Trusting and surrendering to this power is not a sign of weakness on your side.  It is asking for help and support to command the awesome power that surrounds you to allow you to live your best and happiest life
• Build an altar/a space that allows you to revel in the truth that love exists and rules over any issue or problem you think is out there.  Every start of your day spend some time in this space where you honor that life is ruled by love and blessings above all else

Go Strong my dears and please let me now how this works out for you.  I can safely say that it has allowed my life to take on a whole new level of energy and blessings.  I am just seeing how wonderful things are falling into place that allow me to just live my best life.  All exciting.  I am happy to share some examples via email (crazeebeelivin@gmail.com)  if you would like.  Mwah!

Crazeebee Love : Pandora Bracelets

I got a Pandora Bracelet as a birthday gift from a dear friend of mine.  They are extremely awesome!  It is sexy and I just love how it delicately wraps around one's wrist.  So here are some of my favourite selections from the collection.  Enjoy!

Above, is the one I have.  Love it!

Having Only The Great Parts Of A Relationship

Relationships are interesting in what they can do for the individual.  As I have said before, they are very powerful mirrors that reflect so much back to us to work with.  But there are some of us out there that really want it in such a way that we get what we perceive is the best of a relationship and thus ask the individual to only share parts of who they are so it ticks the parts of the relationship that we like.

Hence the terms "friends with benefits" or "#@$! Buddy" come along where it is just the physical and  the togetherness that it allows.  You also get the guy that gets married and has kids and yes ladies, he has some boy as a side of deliciousness that needs to understand his closet situation and play the sex toy on the side without any real chance of something deeper with that married man.  So there are some of us that do perceive that relationships have a great part and we only need to experience the good parts and get out or not be present when the perceived "bad" parts are around.

In this episode Miranda bumps into Skipper with his new girlfriend.  She goes straight into player hater mode and judges the women.  She then opens the door to Skipper which he happily enters and they sleep together for old time sake.  Skipper is all elated and finally believes that Miranda truly wants him back.  Miranda just wants the comfortable sex and is not ready for a full blown relationship.  And she states that. She ends up losing Skipper as he finally draws the line and has enough of her closed nature and her only wanting sex from him.  Miranda misjudged the intensity of Skipper's feelings.



For CrazeeBee, it comes down to what you can handle and how you become aware of what you deserve and how the reality matches what you really desire?  If you feel that you ok with someone that cannot fully give of themselves and be there with you through the good and the bad, then you will have people in your life that cannot fully be there because of their issues or another relationship.  I feel it is just difficult to interact with another human being and box what they must do or be to make you happy for a sustained long period.  Controlling someone can never be achieved long term and ends up never going the way either party intended.

When someone is asking for very specific parts of a relationship, it usually speaks to the parts of them they want to keep closed and them not being open to share and connect that to the bigger flow of life.  They are not in the space to embrace it being open to change for the better.  They are not ready to deal with potential contrast that asks them to question if it does meet their best life or highest good.  They prefer the safety of that current story.

So if you find yourself wanting to control someone to make you happy or looking at asking for a person to give very specific things that make up part of a full relationship, maybe there is an opportunity to look at what parts of you you have a wall around or a place that you want to keep closed and not shine some light on.  I can bet you when you explore and unpack that part of you, you will find some space in that heart of yours to allow someone to be more to you than just a very specific aspect of a relationship.

Mwah!

5 Things To Note About Being "Busy"

Life is busy for most of us.  There is just so much that we "have" to do to get life lived!  There is a fine line between being busy to get results and being busy for the sake of being busy.  Check yourself for the following :

1. Do you truly understand you highest values and how they are being met with what you busy with? Do you believe that you can actually re-look and shift your priorities/values?  Understand where you time, energy and love is going and there you will see your highest current values.  Click on this link to help you unpack it! 
2. When you clear on your life mission statement or vision, you can understand if your all that busy is focused on the right stuff! Consider reconnecting with your life vision
3. You need to look at regular times where you connect to quietness, peace and calm.  It is within that space that inspiration flows and connects you to your genius.  Try out one moment meditation!
4. Consider times in your day to practice the art of focus.  Being present in your genius and inspiration means that you are focused on the task at hand and not multitasking!
5. Being busy is ok and there is nothing wrong with it as long as it is on stuff that is right for the best life you want and you getting the results

Boy You Knock Me Out

This song is so classic RnB!  I am so in love with this kind of soulful music.  This is still in the spirit of simply being open and surrendering to the moment of liking a boy for all that he is and experiencing him.  It is put your hands in the air kind of song and feel the love.  Go on surrender to feeling the goodness of an awesome man.  Yay!

"Call my name.  Let this fantasy be real"

"Imagine all the things we can do"

Bless The Hot Man : Marco Dapper

Happy National Women's day to all the ladies in South Africa.

Trust it is a fab day to take some time and celebrate girl power.  Marco Dapper is a super delicious hunk.  He is simply hot!  There is just no other way to say it.  Enjoy him.  Yum!  He is simply gorgeous.

Fast Food Sex

Some say never sleep with him on the first date and some say make him stew and anticipate when the time is special.  Today, sex for some has become like fast food.  It can be enjoyed minutes after you say yes to it and you don't need the long lead time like before to indulge in it like before.

This is the episode where Carrie and Big had their first date and she went straight to home run with him.  Miss Hobbes was at the gym taking her frustration out on a boxing bag, kicked a cute guy in the head and scored someone that was interested in her.  She was in denial that someone could like her, but went with it and spent the night a couple of dates into knowing him.  She discovers a freakish fantasy side about him and after grappling with it, she opens up to accepting it and the man scares off and leaves her!

What was interesting is that within a week, Miranda found a freakish secret about her man.  She had gone from meeting him to dating him to full on sexual relationship to first secret to deal with her man.  And when she jumped into it, he got scared.  Could it simply be that the relationship was not ready to deal with that level of truth?

What stood out for me was how eager Miranda was to plunge into anything within the new relationship and get all those checkboxes ticked.  And the big question is always when does sex come into the relationship?  There are those that say ASAP and the others that say let's wait for it to be special.

We live in an impatient world of late.  Results must be fast or close to instantaneous!  And for some reason the whole sex thing is part of that getting results fast theme.  It probably comes down to where you are when it comes to your belief of what sex means!  Because at the end of the day, that will drive how you respond to the man in your life when you take the plunge with the guy.  For some it means you must be closer because you have shared something "special", for some it could be just fun and games and tallying up a conquest list and for some it means some form of commitment from the other person.  But that is your view and not necessarily his view.

Whatever you believe, the trick is to understand it.  Because I do find that when sex comes into the picture, something unravels or comes to light.  If you understand that, you can understand how you responding and bring yourself to a point of choice.  To continue responding like that and moving from guy to guy responding as status quo.  Or you could choose to change your response by believing a different story.

So there is nothing wrong with Fast Food Sex! It is the story you carry and the response it invokes within you that needs light to see what choices you have available.  And why not choose a story that brings you joy!

5 Things To Note About Learning Something New

Jamie Hall - University Of Cape Town, South Africa
CrazeeBee's favourite University spot

I love the sentiment of not being busy for busy sake.  I love that it is about getting results.  But in order to get results, one needs to keep your knowledge relevant which then keeps your awareness relevant which makes your choices relevant.  So it starts with learning!

1. TV is a time thief!  I know for sure.  Try and get some learning time in over TV
2. You are able to teach yourself and do not always need a class for that
3. Learning can be as simple as reading and internalising
4. You know who is successful around you in work and life!  Why not unpack what they know and their source of info
5. The goal to add value simply by being you and the thinking you bring.  That correlates to how you develop/evolve your point of view

Go Strong and Wise Darlins.  Mwah

Inspired by Robin Sharma's book "The Greatness Guide"

What A Feelin

Another Kelly Rowland mix up and what a groovy song!  I love how this song is all about surrendering to the love in front of you.  So sing at the top of your voice, put your hands up and surrender to love.  Simply be open and willing.  Mwah











"Boy you got my attention, what's up? My heart is beating"



















"Got my hands way up, I surrender to love"

"My favorite star I stared at every night came down from the sky"

Changing Your Point Of Attraction

I am very big on this let's get closer to our desires and live them.  I have been doing some work using Esther and Jerry Hicks who speak of the teachings of Abraham.  I have discovered focus wheels.  They are awesome, awesome, awesome!  You can take any subject in your life and put it through the process.

The trick is to change how you feel and vibrate at a different level.  If you are able to achieve that, you will be amazed at what comes into your life.  I have seen how I have shifted on some subjects and how it changes the energy exchange with some problem relationships I have been having as well as how the chaos in my world is deepening my understanding rather than driving me crazy.

This video below explains it best in terms of process.  Give it a whirl.  I love how it forces me to deal with what is real to me and not some lame affirmation I will never believe in.  That is the trick for me.  Yes we are asked to be positive but if you ain't believing in it, it will never come because life responds to your energy and feeling and really to what you believe is the truth!  What is great about the focus wheel, is that you have a way to step by step get to a great feeling place on any subject that you can buy into.

Amen!

Tune in every Friday for some more useful tips or themes for a better life.  I found another delicious site that I am excited to read.  Try out http://www.thearvindsingh.blogspot.com/ .  Like the way he thinks.

Crazeebee Love : Thomas Sabo Rings

I am so loving Thomas Sabo.  Finally got myself a Thomas Sabo ring and I am loving it.  Below are some rings from the collection that I adore.  They are simply sexy.

Having Authentic Power In Relationships

We all want to feel special and revel in the idea that we matter.  You can say what you want and deny it all you want but that is the truth.  Deep down we all want to feel like we matter!  So how does this all come together in relationships?  From my experience, there are very few relationships I admire and the ones I do admire seem to have that balance of the people being in their own power.

But there are those relationships where one person has the upper hand.  And the upper hand can be youth, sex appeal, hotness, money, influence, wisdom etc.  Essentially it is something that the other person feels they are missing or have a huge void in their current life that is replaced by that person being in their life.

In this episode Carrie struggles with the concept of using her sexually to get ahead.  She dates a guy that mistakes her for a professional and leaves her some money after a night out with her.  Miranda however was still doing her "sex-thang" with Skipper and he was pining away hopelessly obsessed with her.  You could also see the way she treated him that she had the power in the relationship and by the looks of how she reacted to Carrie's situation, probably believes that she should have the power in the relationship and under no circumstances would she ever give it up!  Poor her and poor Skipper.

Again, this comes back to the concept of FAIR EXCHANGE in a relationship.  There is a reality out there where what you give naturally and effortlessly is of value and loved by someone else.  What they give naturally and effortlessly is of value and loved by yourself.  That does exist in this world and I see that in the relationships I admire so much.

I feel having true power in a relationship is not necessarily staying exactly who you are and keeping that single version of you.  I believe it is the willingness to step into a new version or layer of yourself.  A deeper, open, wiser you that has deeper understanding and perspective as part of a partnership.  True authentic power in a relationship is never losing touch with the truth that you are responsible for being happy and that you chose joy for yourself and not your partner.  It means that you live each day taking next steps that are joyful to you and in so, that effortlessly and naturally brings joy to that of your partner.  It is stepping into the contrast of disagreements, dealing with insecurity and working through pain that you can revel in the peace of the other side and grow with your partner to a new layer of yourself.

I do see that most people cannot see that as a reality but I have seen some of my closest and dearest friends achieve that kind of partnership.  And the secret is them stepping into a new layer of who they are.

So don't be afraid to look at the new layer of you calling you to experience yourself deeper.  It may be scary but what have you got to lose staying in the miserable state of where you are currently. That state of power in your relationship is not authentic!

5 Things From Life As It Is Now

1. Why is there not a national man's day?  Don't men also need to be celebrated?
2. Sundried Lavender Incense sticks simply make the house smell divine
3. The right fat free yoghurt with some spices actually is a great substitute for mayo.  I was pleasantly surprised
4. When will 3 day weekends be a reality?  Hint Hint
5. So the iPhone is the way to go for me.  Finally made the decision!  Yay, cannot wait to get one . . . 

Forever & A Day

There is something special when Kelly Rowland teams up with David Guetta.  Their creativity gives you all feel good songs that you can dance to.  This week's song is all about enjoying the moments with a good man.  I have come to understand a concept of changing your point of energy when you think of any subject.  So this is for celebrating those men that are not perfect, but perfect for you.  Can you imagine what that would feel like to have a man that is perfect for you and is able to give you what you need without it being hard work for him.  He likes/loves you just the way you are.

If he is in your life give him a big hug of gratitude.  If he ain't in your life, consider soaking in what it feels like and dance to the beauty of this song.  Before you know it, he is in your life.  Delicious!

"Now that you lit the flame, don't let it die, let it burn" 

Cougar Town

There will come a time in a 30 something's life when it hits them.  You realise like the others in your life that you have not settled down as yet.  You are single, empowered and independent.  That is is rather powerful foundation to live life the way you want without answering to anyone.  You really have freedom of choice to do what the hell you really want.

This is the episode where the girls (Charlotte, Carrie and Miranda) are dating / doing 20-something guys.  I guess for me, your 30's take on a new kind of view.  You are not as carefree as when you are in your 20's but it does feel like you have way more wisdom, experience and money.  And somehow because you have that, you are more in control of you and your independence and for the first time, you have an upper hand on a 20-something man still finding his way.  For most who have capitalised on their career, your 30's is about having a sense of power.  Like your 20's just with better lenses to see the world and more means at your disposal to get what you want.  And this is a delicious experience when you in the company of 20 something men.  As Miranda puts it: It is all about sex.  Willing, eager to please you, boy scout sex!


For me it does not really matter the age of a man as long as there is FAIR EXCHANGE in the relationship with whoever you sharing your life, bed or yourself with!  It is all about what you giving naturally and effortlessly being valued and loved by that man.  And it is about that man giving you naturally and effortlessly what is of value and loved by yourself.  If a younger man and his eagerness to please you and be in awe of you help you heal and get more in touch to what is great about you, what is wrong with that?  If your wisdom and nurturing help him be a better man as a result, what is wrong with that.  And if sex be the currency that brings that about, who are we to judge?  Who says that it stays the currency in the longer term!


As long as you both are benefitting, what is the big deal?  And let's not make our labels of sex be the defining foundation that young men are just there for sex and nothing else.  I believe it also has to do with energy and having a platform to heal and deal with your level of understanding of life and you at whatever stage you find yourself in.  We all know how it can get when feelings and hormones get in the way and we lose the clarity of ourselves when dealing with a man.  Maybe it also is ok to date someone younger to help keep your power while learning to balance that with loving a man and not letting it distract you from the truth of who you are.  That you can be you and love someone at the same time.

So take the opportunity to believe that relationships with men can heal you and bring you closer to knowing and understanding yourself deeper and the stories you tell yourself about love, sex and you as part of a partnership.

Be open to heal as part of relationships!

Love Sex & Magic

This is such a sizzler of a song.  It is playful, naughty and so flirty.  The idea is that you need to play with the concept that there are more than just one dimension to you.  There is sex ofcourse, love and there is the magic of possibility.  So break out some moves, relax into it and radiate who you are.  He will see it ;)