Is it really true? To have the best sex ever means to truly let go and simply be fully in the moment of it! To let go means to trust, have faith and courage to leap and know all will be well. It means being able to feel that with your partner at the time you get your groove on! To truly feel the power of an orgasm means alignment! Alignment of mind and body to be in that moment to ride the experience to its fullest.
Sex has a way of bringing attention on one's body. By the fact that it is so physical and exposes you on a physical and emotional level, it does allow for negative mental chatter for most of us. Our straight friends have the concept of contrast when it comes to their bodies. Seeing that a man has no context of what it means to be in a women's body, there is an expectation of what the perfect women's body is. So you get women, who strive to have that unrealistic body! The same for our straight men. On the gay front, similarity is awesome so you would think we would understand our partner better. Instead the opportunity of comparison hits home more than one would expect. Because you able to compare bodies like for like, negative stories can leave one feeling extremely worthless.
And to trust and have faith is simply shown to you in how you trust and have faith in yourself. When you have life and the moments before you, how you can trust yourself to go with what is in front of you and having a sense that you will be ok no matter what happens.
So yes! To have awesome sex means having the perfect body. But it boils down to that definition you have and how you embody that. So what you waiting for? Question your definition of the perfect body. Maybe it is time to get one that empowers you and allows for awesome sex!
I am struggling to find a downside here with the above approach :)
I have always struggled w/ my weight and with horrible self esteem b/c my mom was always harassing me to lose weight and exercise. She had me on diets when I was a child and it screwed up my metabolism. She was esp. after me to lose weight in my thighs and butt. I always got the feeling my now ex-h was looking at other girls, and the ones he pointed out having crushes on were all skinny. Thus making our marriage virtually sexless b/c I didn't want to be naked w/ him.
ReplyDeleteEnter my boyfriend, a high school classmate who confessed having had a crush on me and falling for me, and following me around b/c I had such a luscious ass!!! Go figure!!! He's a big man, and a chubby-chaser when it comes to the women he likes. He loves my body, loves touching it, tells me how beautiful and sexy I am all the time. Needless to say our sex life is frickin AMAZING!!
Thank you so much for sharing this gem of a story. It brought me hope in such a big day. It truly speaks to beauty being in the eye of the beholder. You can never assume what someone sees in you. So you might as well as work on how you see yourself. Good Life!
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