Bless Rugby Players : Sean O'Brien

So the world cup did not go as expected for South Africa.  My heart goes out to the Springboks.  Next time boys.  My second favourite team was Ireland.  Something about the Irish charm that I could not resist!  So from that lot of charming lads, Sean O'Brien got my attention.  Enjoy him.  He is not a drop dead gorgeous adonis.  But there is just something very sweet, inviting and homely ;)

Right There

Looks like I am still feeling this sexiness!  So why not just go with it.  Another sizzler of a sexy song by Miss Nicole.  The girl can move and is uber sexy.  Enjoy this hot number.  All I will say is sway those hips as sexy as miss thang.  Amen!

Me like the way you hold my body
Me like the way you touch my body
Me like the way you kiss my . . . . . 

Come here Baby eh be my Baby
Eh be my Baby oh oh oh
Come here baby put your hands on my body

I'm Into You

J.Lo as always is uber urban and hip.  Love this track to bits.  It's sexy and you can just sing it to your man.  Let him know that he has your love and appreciation of him just as he is.  All I can is just be sexy with this song and enjoy it.  Here is a funfilled and sexy week!

You've got me and I could not defend it
I tried but I had to surrender

I'm not the one easy to get to
But all that changed, baby when I met you

5 Things About The Perfect Man & Perfect Relationship

I was at a Dr Demartini talk not too long ago.  There was something big that he shared that got me thinking about life differently.  I love it when those experiences come along when you are  invited to look at life differently.  Anyhoo  . . . . . .

He spoke about this concept that whatever you desire is already in your life, it is just a matter of recognizing the form it is in!  That is huge as it means that you are never lacking anything, it is just in a form that you do not see or understand.  So naturally, I asked myself about where my current perfect man for me has manifested?  To protect privacy, I cannot give too much away but currently, the perfect man for me is split into 3!  An amazing man (someone I truly admire), another sexy man (a sexy friend)  and my MacBook.  Hehehehehe 

Let's say, I now understand why it is difficult for one man to step into my boyfriend role!

Here are 5 things to honor my current manifestation of MY MAN!

1. I get to have the most amazing conversations and get to just be me and share in the most amazing ways. They are not afraid to just be themselves and vulnerable with me and know that I still see them as strong and amazing
2. I get to laugh and can go on a great journey with them.  Everytime I get to spend with them is an adventure
3. It sexiness at its best.  They are settled in themselves and have such a great vision of their world.  They know how to have fun and just live a good life and be in their skin.  It is inspiring
4. I still get to maintain my independence and be myself.  I don't feel like I lose myself and I get to be the crazee that I am known for around them and they are so ok with that ;)
5. There are tough times and there are disagreements and judgement calls on what I could work on to be better but somehow I manage get over my fears and insecurities and work it with them and continue my strong connection with them

Landslide

This song is simply beautiful.  Change in you and change in those you love and hate are inevitable.  All you can do is either resist it or allow it.  The beauty is to realise that you are equipped to deal with it and maybe, youcan give yourself permission to be brave and have the courage to allow what it brings.  Enjoy the lyrics.  They are simply beautiful!


I took my love and I took it down
Climbed a mountain then I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
Where the Landslide brought me down


Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above
Can I sail through the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life


Uh ah . . . .  uh ah . . . . .  uh ah  . . . . . . 


Well, I've been afraid of changin'
'Cause I've built my whole life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I'm getting older too


Instrumental

Well, I've been afraid of changin'

'Cause I've built my whole life around you

But time makes you bolder

Children get older

I'm getting older too

Well, I'm getting older too


So, take this love and take it down
Yeah, and if you climb that mountain and turn around
And if you see my reflection in the snowed covered hills
Well the Landslide brought me down


If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills


Well maybe . . . . . . 
Well maybe . . . . . . 
Well maybe . . . . . . 


The landslide brought me down

CrazeeBee Love : Bless The Rugby Player : Pierre Spies

In honor of the Rugby World Cup, Pierre Spies gets CrazeeBee love.  I believe that there should be a new rule passed for rugby where they play the game as Pierre's attire below.  He does it so effortlessly! Enjoy Mr Pierre.  Local grown South African Talent!  Oh, and CrazeeBee sends the Amabokke love and good luck for the World Cup.  Bring the trophy home lads.  Let's make it number 3!

Having Only The Great Parts Of A Relationship

Relationships are interesting in what they can do for the individual.  As I have said before, they are very powerful mirrors that reflect so much back to us to work with.  But there are some of us out there that really want it in such a way that we get what we perceive is the best of a relationship and thus ask the individual to only share parts of who they are so it ticks the parts of the relationship that we like.

Hence the terms "friends with benefits" or "#@$! Buddy" come along where it is just the physical and  the togetherness that it allows.  You also get the guy that gets married and has kids and yes ladies, he has some boy as a side of deliciousness that needs to understand his closet situation and play the sex toy on the side without any real chance of something deeper with that married man.  So there are some of us that do perceive that relationships have a great part and we only need to experience the good parts and get out or not be present when the perceived "bad" parts are around.

In this episode Miranda bumps into Skipper with his new girlfriend.  She goes straight into player hater mode and judges the women.  She then opens the door to Skipper which he happily enters and they sleep together for old time sake.  Skipper is all elated and finally believes that Miranda truly wants him back.  Miranda just wants the comfortable sex and is not ready for a full blown relationship.  And she states that. She ends up losing Skipper as he finally draws the line and has enough of her closed nature and her only wanting sex from him.  Miranda misjudged the intensity of Skipper's feelings.



For CrazeeBee, it comes down to what you can handle and how you become aware of what you deserve and how the reality matches what you really desire?  If you feel that you ok with someone that cannot fully give of themselves and be there with you through the good and the bad, then you will have people in your life that cannot fully be there because of their issues or another relationship.  I feel it is just difficult to interact with another human being and box what they must do or be to make you happy for a sustained long period.  Controlling someone can never be achieved long term and ends up never going the way either party intended.

When someone is asking for very specific parts of a relationship, it usually speaks to the parts of them they want to keep closed and them not being open to share and connect that to the bigger flow of life.  They are not in the space to embrace it being open to change for the better.  They are not ready to deal with potential contrast that asks them to question if it does meet their best life or highest good.  They prefer the safety of that current story.

So if you find yourself wanting to control someone to make you happy or looking at asking for a person to give very specific things that make up part of a full relationship, maybe there is an opportunity to look at what parts of you you have a wall around or a place that you want to keep closed and not shine some light on.  I can bet you when you explore and unpack that part of you, you will find some space in that heart of yours to allow someone to be more to you than just a very specific aspect of a relationship.

Mwah!

Boy You Knock Me Out

This song is so classic RnB!  I am so in love with this kind of soulful music.  This is still in the spirit of simply being open and surrendering to the moment of liking a boy for all that he is and experiencing him.  It is put your hands in the air kind of song and feel the love.  Go on surrender to feeling the goodness of an awesome man.  Yay!

"Call my name.  Let this fantasy be real"

"Imagine all the things we can do"

Fast Food Sex

Some say never sleep with him on the first date and some say make him stew and anticipate when the time is special.  Today, sex for some has become like fast food.  It can be enjoyed minutes after you say yes to it and you don't need the long lead time like before to indulge in it like before.

This is the episode where Carrie and Big had their first date and she went straight to home run with him.  Miss Hobbes was at the gym taking her frustration out on a boxing bag, kicked a cute guy in the head and scored someone that was interested in her.  She was in denial that someone could like her, but went with it and spent the night a couple of dates into knowing him.  She discovers a freakish fantasy side about him and after grappling with it, she opens up to accepting it and the man scares off and leaves her!

What was interesting is that within a week, Miranda found a freakish secret about her man.  She had gone from meeting him to dating him to full on sexual relationship to first secret to deal with her man.  And when she jumped into it, he got scared.  Could it simply be that the relationship was not ready to deal with that level of truth?

What stood out for me was how eager Miranda was to plunge into anything within the new relationship and get all those checkboxes ticked.  And the big question is always when does sex come into the relationship?  There are those that say ASAP and the others that say let's wait for it to be special.

We live in an impatient world of late.  Results must be fast or close to instantaneous!  And for some reason the whole sex thing is part of that getting results fast theme.  It probably comes down to where you are when it comes to your belief of what sex means!  Because at the end of the day, that will drive how you respond to the man in your life when you take the plunge with the guy.  For some it means you must be closer because you have shared something "special", for some it could be just fun and games and tallying up a conquest list and for some it means some form of commitment from the other person.  But that is your view and not necessarily his view.

Whatever you believe, the trick is to understand it.  Because I do find that when sex comes into the picture, something unravels or comes to light.  If you understand that, you can understand how you responding and bring yourself to a point of choice.  To continue responding like that and moving from guy to guy responding as status quo.  Or you could choose to change your response by believing a different story.

So there is nothing wrong with Fast Food Sex! It is the story you carry and the response it invokes within you that needs light to see what choices you have available.  And why not choose a story that brings you joy!

Forever & A Day

There is something special when Kelly Rowland teams up with David Guetta.  Their creativity gives you all feel good songs that you can dance to.  This week's song is all about enjoying the moments with a good man.  I have come to understand a concept of changing your point of energy when you think of any subject.  So this is for celebrating those men that are not perfect, but perfect for you.  Can you imagine what that would feel like to have a man that is perfect for you and is able to give you what you need without it being hard work for him.  He likes/loves you just the way you are.

If he is in your life give him a big hug of gratitude.  If he ain't in your life, consider soaking in what it feels like and dance to the beauty of this song.  Before you know it, he is in your life.  Delicious!

"Now that you lit the flame, don't let it die, let it burn" 

Cougar Town

There will come a time in a 30 something's life when it hits them.  You realise like the others in your life that you have not settled down as yet.  You are single, empowered and independent.  That is is rather powerful foundation to live life the way you want without answering to anyone.  You really have freedom of choice to do what the hell you really want.

This is the episode where the girls (Charlotte, Carrie and Miranda) are dating / doing 20-something guys.  I guess for me, your 30's take on a new kind of view.  You are not as carefree as when you are in your 20's but it does feel like you have way more wisdom, experience and money.  And somehow because you have that, you are more in control of you and your independence and for the first time, you have an upper hand on a 20-something man still finding his way.  For most who have capitalised on their career, your 30's is about having a sense of power.  Like your 20's just with better lenses to see the world and more means at your disposal to get what you want.  And this is a delicious experience when you in the company of 20 something men.  As Miranda puts it: It is all about sex.  Willing, eager to please you, boy scout sex!


For me it does not really matter the age of a man as long as there is FAIR EXCHANGE in the relationship with whoever you sharing your life, bed or yourself with!  It is all about what you giving naturally and effortlessly being valued and loved by that man.  And it is about that man giving you naturally and effortlessly what is of value and loved by yourself.  If a younger man and his eagerness to please you and be in awe of you help you heal and get more in touch to what is great about you, what is wrong with that?  If your wisdom and nurturing help him be a better man as a result, what is wrong with that.  And if sex be the currency that brings that about, who are we to judge?  Who says that it stays the currency in the longer term!


As long as you both are benefitting, what is the big deal?  And let's not make our labels of sex be the defining foundation that young men are just there for sex and nothing else.  I believe it also has to do with energy and having a platform to heal and deal with your level of understanding of life and you at whatever stage you find yourself in.  We all know how it can get when feelings and hormones get in the way and we lose the clarity of ourselves when dealing with a man.  Maybe it also is ok to date someone younger to help keep your power while learning to balance that with loving a man and not letting it distract you from the truth of who you are.  That you can be you and love someone at the same time.

So take the opportunity to believe that relationships with men can heal you and bring you closer to knowing and understanding yourself deeper and the stories you tell yourself about love, sex and you as part of a partnership.

Be open to heal as part of relationships!

The Grass Being Greener On The Other Side . . . . .

I was asked this question the other day.  Is the grass really greener on the other side when it comes to relationships?  I surprised myself when I took a moment to think about it and share my view or idea on the concept.

Does it matter what colour the grass is on the other side when it comes to comparing what you have in a relationship and looking at what is out there?  We are attracted to a partner because there is something great they give us.  Whether it is good for us or not is another point.  The point is that we gain some value from having that partner integrate their life with us.

It's when we ask ourselves am I able to give that greatness to myself that an interesting answer unfolds.  Some of us look for life discipline which we admire in our partner and hope that it rubs off.  Some of us want to constantly feel sexy and valued and adoration and hero syndrome from our partner gives us that.  Some us want someone we can just be ourselves with and have that be ok and get that from our partner.  And the list goes on.  The simple question if you replace "partner" with yourself, are you in a position to give that greatness to yourself?

When you get to a point where the question is yes, the colour of the grass on the other side does not matter at all.  It comes down to a knowing!  A knowing that you are enough, that you have the talent and ability and love to give yourself all the greatness you can desire.  So bring on the other side because baby you are ready in any case.

Some thoughts the question triggered.

It's Coming Over Me Like It's Coming Over You

There is something so inviting about this song.  Have you ever just sat and watched waves in action.  They build up and crash and sweep away.  If you in the middle of all that and just let go and let the waves take over you, what a ride that would be.  This is what this song can make one feel.

For me, it speaks to a feeling of giving in and riding the wave.  Being in this space of allowing someone to flow into me and me into them.  This song appeals so much to me where you simply go with the flow of getting to know a person, make that first call or even just say hello to that person you have liked for sooo long but never had the courage to say a word to.

Celebrate the giving into inspired action!  When the stars align and all that is needed is that you action in an effortless and energizing way.  I recently had one of those moments where everything simply aligned and all I had to do was go on instinct and every word, action I did was harmonious.  Yum!

This song celebrates that sentiment for me.  Enjoy!

There Is A Space For You

There is a space deep in my heart

All welcoming with no expectation

All warm and safe

It is this space where freedom is known and felt

Where you can flow into me

Where I can flow into you

Where we can go on adventure

To deepen understanding and wisdom

To feel deeply, to express honestly and safely

To Be As We Are

In this now

I feel it

I embrace it

I live it

This Vacuum of Space

That Vibrates with Love

It's for you

Welcome

                                                                            - by Crazeebee Livin

Some Things I Took Away From My Last Date

I am back on the dating scene.  I will admit, I need to get back into the swing of it.  But had an interesting one not so long ago and this is what I took away from the experience in no particular order :

1. Do not decide that a new hair mousse will do the great hair trick versus the tried and tested one you usually use!
2. Maybe going easy on the indulgence of chocolate in the get ready routine is a good idea?
3. The self conscious thing can get in the way and block you from being free to let go and be in the moment with that person
4. It helps to follow your gut / heart on the next step 
5. It helps even more when you simply ask him about the next step.  It takes a courage to handle the answer  no matter what it is
6. Wearing an awesome fragrance is always a great idea
7. Have the courage to be honest with your point of views and how you see the world
8. Be open to understand another point of view
9. Go easy on yourself! You are doing better than you think!
10. Leave analysis paralysis to those who want to stay single.  Simply go with the flow and enjoy what is in front of you ;)

Blog Crush : A Slice of Gay Pie: Sagittarius

Some more Blog Love from my side.  Below is a sexy view on the Sagittarius man!  It has appealed to me for a number of reasons! But it has to do with lessons from Wiseman Nos 7

A Slice of Gay Pie: Sagittarius: "Sexual Ecstasy 
 The Sagittarius man is the classic adventurer, optimistic and full of life, spontaneous, lovable and in search for fre..."

Perfect Body = Awesome Sex

Is it really true?  To have the best sex ever means to truly let go and simply be fully in the moment of it!  To let go means to trust, have faith and courage to leap and know all will be well.  It means being able to feel that with your partner at the time you get your groove on!  To truly feel the power of an orgasm means alignment!  Alignment of mind and body to be in that moment to ride the experience to its fullest.

Sex has a way of bringing attention on one's body.  By the fact that it is so physical and exposes you on a physical and emotional level, it does allow for negative mental chatter for most of us.  Our straight friends have the concept of contrast when it comes to their bodies.  Seeing that a man has no context of what it means to be in a women's body, there is an expectation of what the perfect women's body is.  So you get women, who strive to have that unrealistic body!  The same for our straight men.  On the gay front, similarity is awesome so you would think we would understand our partner better.  Instead the opportunity of comparison hits home more than one would expect.  Because you able to compare bodies like for like, negative stories can leave one feeling extremely worthless.

But we miss the big message!  The perfect body is not the definition that our partner or potential partners give us.  The perfect body is that definition that pops up when you naked and looking at yourself in the mirror.  Notice that the people in your life that have awesome sex usually have a great balance of what they feel about their body and having that comfortability with their partner or partners!  When you get the trick that it is getting underneath that mental chatter into the moment you are with him and experiencing him that the opportunity to trust him and let go is HUGE!

And to trust and have faith is simply shown to you in how you trust and have faith in yourself.  When you have life and the moments before you, how you can trust yourself to go with what is in front of you and having a sense that you will be ok no matter what happens.

So yes! To have awesome sex means having the perfect body.  But it boils down to that definition you have and how you embody that.  So what you waiting for?  Question your definition of the perfect body. Maybe it is time to get one that empowers you and allows for awesome sex!

I am struggling to find a downside here with the above approach :)

Wiseman 7 dot Chocolate

This has been an interesting twist of late but I have had this interesting attraction to chocolate!  Usually, pink and lack of sunkissed skin have been true winners for me but there has been a shift and a new dimension has entered the mix.  The dawn of indulging in some hot chocolate!

So it is like someone asked to notice all the blue in my world.  And the mind picks up the blue in everything I would come across such as a car, a item of clothing, buildings etc.  So it is with hot chocolate.  I am seeing it all over.  So no idea what it all means but will simply go with the feeling.  It feels good and that is enough of a indicator to dive in!

Wiseman Nos 7 takes on a pleasant and interesting twist!  My Dating card has opened up in a whole new way!  Lol!

Confusing the Message with the Messenger!

It is one of the 101's of happiness.  You make yourself happy first!  You are the only one that can truly make yourself happy!  The minute you outsource this to another person, you are destined for anxiety, stress, fear and pain.  The reason being rather simple.  You cannot control another person in what they think, believe, feel and ultimately action.

I was reminded of this in the last week based on a wobbly I had with the current Wiseman Nos 7 in my life.  For a while, I was comfortable that he represented what I desired of a man and that he was a constant reminder of what I wanted to enjoy in a regular encounter with a man.  Somehow, there was a shift from me feeling all good and happy just simply enjoying the experience to it becoming about him being the source of my happiness in the men / relationship space.  And so came the desperation, the neediness, the anxiety and the depression!

I realised how easy it was to slip into making someone other than ourselves responsible for our happiness when it comes to those special people in our lives that we get so much great from.  If we are not careful to keep ourselves in check and honest with what we truly feeling, we end up very easily confusing the message of love, joy and happiness with the messenger.  Thus the messenger ends up being the source of our love, happiness and joy. 

I forgot about the essence of the message with Wiseman Nos 7.  The opportunity to build and share intimacy with someone at their core versus on physical appearance alone.  That truly knowing and loving someone is bigger than what they look like.  That being sexy is bigger than what reflects back from a mirror, that sexy is a state of mind and being!  Getting that confused with the messenger meant that the truth of what Wiseman Nos 7 was teaching me was not burning bright within myself.  It was more me only feeling that with him around.  That is simply dangerous!

So today, I share with you all to look at the source of your happiness, joy and love.  May you have the awareness and courage to see the difference between the true message and keep that separate from the messenger! 

I am not saying it is an easy thing to do but a fruitful one when you can tell the difference.  You then have a choice to embody the message and not expect the messenger to do that work for you!  I am starting to see it and now I know the work required is to simply be brave to let go of the messenger and hold onto the message and allow it to take root in me and burn bright.

Be Blessed!

The eye of the Beholder! It's all Relative

I am reminded today that what is seen is seen through the lenses of the Beholder.  The beholder has their filters, prejudice, pain and short circuits that influence the picture through the lens.  No 2 people can ever see in the same way!  So when you add the following topics on the table like "How sexy am I" or "My hotness factor" or even "I am sooo lovable", it's all relative really and in the eye of the Beholder. 

For it speaks volumes to the limitless opportunities out there of what is sexy, beautiful, hot or lovable!  I realised this today after another amazing Wiseman Nos 7 experience.  There are simply limitless ways in how you can be seen as sexy or lovable. 

So the bottom line : Choose the version of truth that you believe and that feeds your soul.  That version being you seeing yourself as sexy / lovable!  Because with all that limitlessness out there, there is bound to be someone that will see it the same way!  And when that alignment happens!  The word that comes to mind is DELICIOUS!