Brutally Honest Conversations - 5 Things!

With any relationship comes a point where a truth comes out.  Life will happen, experiences will come and go, pressure will mount and then that someone just says it like it is.  No holding back, no minding their emotions, no minding how you feel about it or where you are in your head or heart, just the brutal, uncensored, unfiltered what they feel!  This happens between best friends, colleagues, family and more so with a romantic partner!  There are those times when all filters are down and that person speaks their brutal truth!  Some ideas from CrazeeBee :

1. Don't forget your boundaries!  All too quickly we jump to the conclusion that the person is right and we have driven them to react this way with us so we must be bad.  Listening to their point of view is important but it is equally important to weigh up what is being said and if there is something for you to work with and take note of.  It is not about blind acceptance that what they're saying is the truth about you
2. Listen!  We all too quickly want to defend, and be heard on our terms.  Listen and be curious to unpack it
3. If you got  hooked into the drama, when the dust settles, realise that it hit a nerve within you and that there is something for you to look at to understand if it is a healthy or unhealthy view that you carry around
4. No matter what, the people in your life are mirrors and thus will reflect what you need to take note of.    When you intend to remember that law, it does open your mind and heart to understand what truth you need to unfold
5. This is a building block to more closeness and better communication as you both come to an understanding of each other in a deeper sense.  When you come from a point of view of understanding that person better, you place yourself in a position to make loving choices when it comes to the next steps with that particular relationship

Bless Rugby Players : Sean O'Brien

So the world cup did not go as expected for South Africa.  My heart goes out to the Springboks.  Next time boys.  My second favourite team was Ireland.  Something about the Irish charm that I could not resist!  So from that lot of charming lads, Sean O'Brien got my attention.  Enjoy him.  He is not a drop dead gorgeous adonis.  But there is just something very sweet, inviting and homely ;)

I'm Into You

J.Lo as always is uber urban and hip.  Love this track to bits.  It's sexy and you can just sing it to your man.  Let him know that he has your love and appreciation of him just as he is.  All I can is just be sexy with this song and enjoy it.  Here is a funfilled and sexy week!

You've got me and I could not defend it
I tried but I had to surrender

I'm not the one easy to get to
But all that changed, baby when I met you

5 Things About The Perfect Man & Perfect Relationship

I was at a Dr Demartini talk not too long ago.  There was something big that he shared that got me thinking about life differently.  I love it when those experiences come along when you are  invited to look at life differently.  Anyhoo  . . . . . .

He spoke about this concept that whatever you desire is already in your life, it is just a matter of recognizing the form it is in!  That is huge as it means that you are never lacking anything, it is just in a form that you do not see or understand.  So naturally, I asked myself about where my current perfect man for me has manifested?  To protect privacy, I cannot give too much away but currently, the perfect man for me is split into 3!  An amazing man (someone I truly admire), another sexy man (a sexy friend)  and my MacBook.  Hehehehehe 

Let's say, I now understand why it is difficult for one man to step into my boyfriend role!

Here are 5 things to honor my current manifestation of MY MAN!

1. I get to have the most amazing conversations and get to just be me and share in the most amazing ways. They are not afraid to just be themselves and vulnerable with me and know that I still see them as strong and amazing
2. I get to laugh and can go on a great journey with them.  Everytime I get to spend with them is an adventure
3. It sexiness at its best.  They are settled in themselves and have such a great vision of their world.  They know how to have fun and just live a good life and be in their skin.  It is inspiring
4. I still get to maintain my independence and be myself.  I don't feel like I lose myself and I get to be the crazee that I am known for around them and they are so ok with that ;)
5. There are tough times and there are disagreements and judgement calls on what I could work on to be better but somehow I manage get over my fears and insecurities and work it with them and continue my strong connection with them

Landslide

This song is simply beautiful.  Change in you and change in those you love and hate are inevitable.  All you can do is either resist it or allow it.  The beauty is to realise that you are equipped to deal with it and maybe, youcan give yourself permission to be brave and have the courage to allow what it brings.  Enjoy the lyrics.  They are simply beautiful!


I took my love and I took it down
Climbed a mountain then I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
Where the Landslide brought me down


Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above
Can I sail through the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life


Uh ah . . . .  uh ah . . . . .  uh ah  . . . . . . 


Well, I've been afraid of changin'
'Cause I've built my whole life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I'm getting older too


Instrumental

Well, I've been afraid of changin'

'Cause I've built my whole life around you

But time makes you bolder

Children get older

I'm getting older too

Well, I'm getting older too


So, take this love and take it down
Yeah, and if you climb that mountain and turn around
And if you see my reflection in the snowed covered hills
Well the Landslide brought me down


If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills


Well maybe . . . . . . 
Well maybe . . . . . . 
Well maybe . . . . . . 


The landslide brought me down

Give Skipper A Chance

So this is an interesting one.  There are those super beautiful people out there.  And yes they are what fantasies are made of.  And everytime some of us see them, we instantly go into compare mode and feel like we won't cut it in the dating scene or the relationship scene because we just do have the H.O.T factor.

This is the time when Miranda blows Skipper off because he does not fit her definition of a man she would want to date.  I guess the sweetness simply was too much for her.  Is a great character really that sexy?  Is sweetness all that it is made up to be when one has hormones raging?  Can sweet guys with great characters really be the kind of man that equates to prince charming that we all long for?  That well built camel man that is so gladiator alpha and what  fantasy fairytales are made of!

At the end of the day, beauty is not a life long thing and when you look back at any special moment in your life or special time in your life, it had nothing to do with how good someone looked.  It had to do with the connection and how they made you feel.

That is probably what made Miranda give Skipper a chance in that supermarket.  She could see the realness in his intention and she liked that someone could see her and still wanted a piece of her.  So this is just an invite to single folk out there.  Be willing to open to connection and experiencing yourself and someone else on more than just one level.

At the end of the day, it is about having experiences that make you clearer on you and your next step.  So why not try it in your relationships or adventures with men.  Be willing to see more to a man than just how good he looks and maybe you won't feel so bad when you see a perfect specimen that you think men compare you to.  If you willing to expand your view, be sure that there are people out there that are willing to expand their view on beauty.

Give the Skippers in your life a chance.

Wiseman Nos 8 Is That Friend Packing Undiscovered Sexiness . . .

So Wiseman Nos 8 has always been about the sexiness in someone's character and the way he sees the world.  He has such a sexy view of the world and boy can he take you on a journey that engages your mind, heart and soul.  If you remember the recent hunk appreciation posts, the roles that Cam and Alex played in their respective movies was exactly the kind of scenarios you would find a Wiseman Nos 8 in his element slowly but surely making you melt.

Let's celebrate that geek, nerd or shy guy that has that sexiness hidden or not so obvious.  It is that sexiness that is layered that you peel away as you get to know him on a deeper level and explore that sexy mind and delicious centre of him.  It is embracing the concept of opening yourself up to discover a man for more than just his physical appearance and the obvious sexy stuff that Wiseman Nos 7 would bring.

Let's savour the sexiness that creeps up on you when you discover and experience the beauty and wonder of Wiseman Nos 8. It is that kind of sexiness that once it all unfolds, he has that appeal and hotness that hits you instantly and all of a sudden, he is MAN! Not that friend, not that pal, not that geek, he is a MAN!  Yum Yum!

Embrace the possibility of getting to know a man that is willing to share is mind, soul and heart.  There definitely is a journey to take with him and in some cases the passion and heat do suddenly become apparent when you open to seeing things differently.

Crushes from the Age of Innocence

Have you ever looked back at your crushes from when you were younger or more innocent probably is the term I am looking for?  You know before all the heartache, drama, men are evil clogged up the artery of pure love and innocence!?!  I was queueing at one of the checkout counters at the start of my holiday trip and that is where I saw him.

My first year university crush!  He looked exactly the same as I remembered him . . . . .

It was awesome taking in his red hair, pale milky skin, his tallness and that quirkiness that I so fondly remember him for.  I found it really weird that he showed up at this point after not seeing him for just over 10 years.  But as my holiday has progressed I am beginning to become aware of the sexiness that comes from the essence that is Wiseman Nos 8!  His character, his sense of humor and his eye that sees the world in such a way that it pulls you into his world of wonder and joy!

I have bumped into quite a few Wiseman Nos 8's this holiday and I have remembered just how much I have enjoyed connecting and spending time with them.  I am remembering that laughing, connecting deeply on a intellectual and emotional level and being invited to see your world differently can be a rollercoaster ride of note.

So here is to giving that clogged love artery a good flush!  And start embracing, loving and enjoying the dealings with a SEXY mind/energy!  Cause boys and gals, that is a timeless sexiness!

xoxo

Wiseman Nos 1 plus Wiseman Nos 8 equals someone I would like to get to know!

So it looks like my Wiseman profiles are proving to do some maths in my life. This is what I am loving about the Wiseman Chronicles.  It is giving me a platform to understand what I am attracted to and what I resist.  All powerful inputs to help me know myself better as well as get clear on that perfect partner I so deeply desire.

So I was out at a club the other night. And I was in the zone dancing the night away. I will admit to the South African folk. Risque Friday Night DJ was playing some ROCKING KICK ASS GET YOUR GROOVE ON kind of music. He was spinning up a master mix of banging music!  I was on a high and a dance animal! Utterly primal and not ashamed to shake my booty! ;)

In my midst of dancing away, I saw him. And it was weird cause what drew me in was his smile! Normally, a guy with pecs or impeccable ass does the trick, but it was in his smile. He had radiance, a pure, warm, inviting energy. And what kept going through my head was I want to get to know him. I could actually see dates, great chats and knowing what caused that smile to be soooooo amazing. And seeing him dance and just let go was soooooo cute and adorable. I just wanted to scoop him up and hide away with him and just know him.

It was a far cry from the credential checklist outcomes based approach I normally take with a man. I mean you either good for orgasm or good for relationship. After a quick and effective assessment process, you are classified and treated accordingly. Yep, I can be that clinical when I need to be.

There was a catch though, it looked like he was on a date and was enjoying himself on that date. It seemed pretty new as he and the guy he was with had that attraction but that safe polite distance when you in the early stages in dating. So I was soooo happy to have seen a man differently but not so happy that there still seemed to something in the way of that! Dammit!

Anyhoo, he was a yummy surprise and even more was my attitude when I saw him. Very different and pleasantly surprising to me. Letting it go and looking forward to meeting men like that. Yum Yum!. Laters xoxoxoxoxo

The Wiseman Chronicles : Wiseman Nos 8

Also Known As : Mr Personality or Mr Character or Mr Heart!
Most Attractive Quality : His ability to make conversation and moments effortless, free flowing and funny! You are relaxed and no topic is off the table. You laugh and you laugh good!  You can feel connection and a pull to something deeper!
Most Adorable Quality : His way of seeing the world. It pulls you in!
He Makes me Feel : Connected to something very special . . . .
He Resonates with : The feeling side of you. That place where really your closest friends get to inside of you when all the defenses are down.  You can feel his energy, appreciate a good laugh and see the world with new eyes.

His charm comes from his wit, humor, intelligence and ability to make you feel comfortable. He can take you on a journey simply by sharing how he sees the world. You end up laughing quite a bit and no matter what is happening in your life, some time with him has a way of making the world better, lighter and fun. You may catch yourself having a vision of him as a  husband and the one that will be around when you old and there he still is, holding your hand making the world seem better with his perception of it.

Time and the rest of the world disappear around him. You are pulled into an alternate reality as he weaves stories and shares his views and you cannot really explain how you manage to soak it all in. You are rather engaged when dealing with him and you cannot believe that someone like him is packing such an awesome character / heart! Definitely the feeling of getting to indulge in the delicious centre of a chocolate. An unexpected delicious surprise from what you expected!

At the Core of Desire:
This is someone that sees through all the packaging to the heart of what makes you. This is at your soul level where you able to just be loved for what you have inside rather than how it all comes together on the outside. When you are seen for what you are inside, it is a powerful version of sexy that transcends all the bullshit of what you think beautiful is. It comes down simply that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you believe it when you around Wiseman Nos 8.