I was asked this question the other day. Is the grass really greener on the other side when it comes to relationships? I surprised myself when I took a moment to think about it and share my view or idea on the concept.
Does it matter what colour the grass is on the other side when it comes to comparing what you have in a relationship and looking at what is out there? We are attracted to a partner because there is something great they give us. Whether it is good for us or not is another point. The point is that we gain some value from having that partner integrate their life with us.
It's when we ask ourselves am I able to give that greatness to myself that an interesting answer unfolds. Some of us look for life discipline which we admire in our partner and hope that it rubs off. Some of us want to constantly feel sexy and valued and adoration and hero syndrome from our partner gives us that. Some us want someone we can just be ourselves with and have that be ok and get that from our partner. And the list goes on. The simple question if you replace "partner" with yourself, are you in a position to give that greatness to yourself?
When you get to a point where the question is yes, the colour of the grass on the other side does not matter at all. It comes down to a knowing! A knowing that you are enough, that you have the talent and ability and love to give yourself all the greatness you can desire. So bring on the other side because baby you are ready in any case.
Some thoughts the question triggered.
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