8 Things I Loved . . . . . .

January 2011 so far has been a crazy busy month.  No room for me easing into it I figure.  Couple of things got some love!

8 - Connecting The Dots - It is an amazing feeling when someone struggles with a problem that causes them pain and stress and then together with love, you can help them connect the dots.  And all it takes is understanding people's values.  Once they can see the solution within their value system, you see the calm, you see the empowerment.  Delicious!

7 - Your Body Taking Care Of Itself - Is it not amazing to eat what you want, get honest with yourself, feel what you need to and seeing how your body restores itself when it has love and exercise!

6 - Naturally Curly Hair + Mousse + Hair Dryer with Diffuser = Amazing Hair - For a naturally curly head, the combination does wonders for the best curls ever! Yay!

5 - Australian Open - Loving the start of the tennis season.  Grand Slams are such a special time for the tennis fans!

4 - Jason Greer - He is so tall and even yuumier in person.  Yum, Yum!

3 - Comedians - They are sooo funny!!!  Attended the 1st Comedic Choice Awards for South Africa which was sooooo awesome.  I realised just how sexy their minds are.  They see the world in such interesting angles!

2 - Endorphin Rush - Don't you just love a great workout and then the rush of happiness from the endorphins having their party! Yum!

1 - Being in the ZONE! - I love it when you all connected to what you doing and feeling and soaking in every second of the experience.  The zone, a heavenly state to be in!

Life Theme Checkpoint : Who Is Irreplaceable?

On the theme of music, it could also be used to highlight some deep fears or limiting beliefs!  Take the Beyonce song Irreplaceable.  There are two ways to view it.  An angry chick that is having her say and getting even with a loser man!  That feeling is allowed and this song is awesome to feel that.

Then there is the deeper concept of, move on and move out loser man.  That's ok.  With who I am and what I offer, I can get love and appreciation in the next minute!  Now that is opening up a path for a greater man to come!

So the question really is!  If your partner had to move on, remember that it is about what they reflected back to you in that relationship.  That is always with you.  If you believe in the law of attraction of like attracts like, then if that is still with you, it is a matter of being in what was reflected being with that person so that the law can bring you another partner in the next minute!  Love it!

Gay Heading For Normal?

I could be kidding myself but recently I got the feeling that "Gayness" is heading for the category of normal.  You know, "oh so those two are together and happy and they're 2 men", a second pause!  "Pass the sugar please" and so you munch away your breakfast!  Amen if that is the case but also now enter the realness of being a person versus being a label!

That could be one of the toughest things for gay people to work through.  They come out the closet and for a while it is about understanding how something different, forbidden and even frowned upon gets a place in the sun with love.  So it is no surprise that for a while it is extreme in how they live, project who they are and basically live up to the label of Gay and what generally comes with that label.  Well, let's be a bit more precise, for some and not all do the above!

You know the stereotypes!  The fashion, the sharp eye, tongue and wit, the wild partying and sluttiness!  But that is expected.  To find your balance, you must go in the extreme and be there and fully experience it.  The interesting part comes, when the novelty goes away and they are just the person.  What now does it come down to?

It is not about being recognised for loving another a man, it is not about who you chose to sleep with, it is not about standing out in a crowd as that is simply a given that it is accepted.  Then for the gay folk, what does it come to?

The same as it does for all the rest of humans.  It is about happiness, your joy and love.  Once the label stuff goes away, it comes down to simply being happy with the small moments and the big moments which is the same for anyone regardless of sexual orientation.

I am excited to see either the start of a shift or a shift already in momentum.  The Golden Globes was testament of that to me with Chris Colfer winning best supporting actor.  When being gay is now being represented at the teen level, that is telling me there is a sense of permission for them to be who they are.  It's a start but a huge step versus when I was teen struggling with a "bad" situation as I labelled it at the time!

Modern Family looks into a Gay family and is quite the popular series earning some Golden Globe nods.  So great to start seeing the realness coming through.  Interesting stuff indeed.

Your Life Is A True Mirror Of What You Believe!

As much as I believe in getting that positive vision of the future in front of one to visualise and work towards making it a reality, there is also a SHADOW we carry.  Debbie Ford has done some great work in this space.  Eckhart Tolle also calls it the PainBody for the Eckhart fans. I personally put that all under the agenda of Release Work.  For me it is those subtle beliefs that drape and blend in so well, that we are not aware of their effect on our response to life and the energy we give out.  Shining awareness on them allows us to release / clear them.

I have found that no matter what you call it, for me it is a Life Theme that needs to be released to allow one to change their position to it.  There are 2 great sources to help you.  One is how you feeling?  Happy and safe or Bothered and Sad?  Then where is the evidence of this in your life?  What current situations or experiences in your life are matching that feeling?

The essence to all this, find a process / way that allows you to examine your dominant beliefs of your life as it is!

You could be worried about the future in general because you never know what will take you out financially or health wise. When you look at your life, you can see little things going wrong that are causing unplanned expenses to add up or the stuff that brought you security changes such as a job, a contract etc!  So essentially you don't trust in a good future for yourself and your ability to respond effectively to serve you!  Some dominant negative belief is blocking that ability to trust in your greatness to make good on any situation!

You could find that you are constantly stressed in a relationship.  This could be caused by your partner's career success or their amazing beauty or their perfect body or they just have their life together and you marvel at that.  You basically are having to deal with the lack in your life when you constantly having to witness its abundance in your partner's life.  Some negative belief related to you not being good enough is dominant!

The answer is there I swear.  Geenen Roth in her book Women, Food and God explained a nifty process called Inquiry!  It is being open and curious.  And it is asking with an open mind what is there so it can unravel.  It is starting with what is happening now and taking the journey with your body.

I quote from page 104 . . . . .

" When you inquire, you begin with whatever is happening now - from wanting a pizza to wanting to crawl into bed and stay there for the next fifty years . . . . . 


An inquiry starts with wanting to know something you don't know.  Wanting to know something you don't activates your curiosity; it elicits your openness.  It evokes a part of you that is not a conglomeration of old beliefs, ideas, self-images, stories, identifications.  . . . . . 


Inquiry is body based . . . . . . . 


You are feeling sad.  You ask yourself where the feeling is located in your body.  You notice a gray heap of ashes in your chest and up pops a belief that love exists for other people except me.  You become curious about that belief.  How old were you when you first learned that? And what were your feelings at the time that never got noticed or felt or understood? " 




Ask the question, the answer will come.  And you start at where your life is now!

With Love
CB

Ignite It : The Heart Of The Matter

In the spirit of igniting greatness, realise that there is always a HIGHER AND DEEPER TRUTH to any subject you come across in your life.  It is simply a matter of perspective, your openness and willingness to embrace a deeper understanding of that subject.

There are always various versions of the truth when it comes to a subject.  The trick is to embrace your ability to go beyond the obvious and what is in front of you to embrace what lies behind that.  It is when we have the courage to go beyond fears and limitations in front of us, that we open the door to deeper understanding. 

Go Strong and Open to deeper truth when it comes to your life themes!  There is enough evidence all around you to give you the insights you need!

Gratitude Song : Shake Your Booty for the Beauty in the World!

Macy Gray puts it so wonderfully in this song.  There is Beauty in the World if you just look around.  What I like is the invitation to shake your booty for the beauty in the world.  So go ahead!  Shake Your Booty!