Having Sex Like A Man

So my birthday inspired this series of my blog.  I remembered the first episode of Sex and the City last night as I had my closest and dearest friends around the table talking about every and any subject available to us.  Sex and the City is my all time favourite series that has inspired so much open conversation with myself and my friends.  So I dusted off my bible and popped in the first episode of the first series.

It was all about having Sex Like a Man.  Sex without feeling and commitment.  And that there was nothing wrong with just being in the moment and feeling all good about it.  What got my attention was that it was a 30 something Miranda Hobbes' birthday.

Miranda potentially represents that overachiever career individual.  She does not believe that there is anything sexually attractive about herself and that she has to compete with all these gorgeous model types with their perfect bodies and effortless ways of getting men to fall all over them.  So she gives up the game as she accepts that she is not going to be as the masses are.  But secretly it's because really, she knows she will lose!

So she goes on to make herself this strong independent women that basically breaks men down and makes them feel inadequate.  Especially those that show interest in her.  She almost removed any limb she could find from poor Skipper.  And there he was simply trying with such sweet and good intentions to get her to loosen up and like him.

So for the Miranda types, Having Sex Like a Man i.e simply being able to be in the moment and enjoy it and not expect anything more afterwards is a little difficult.  Miranda types need to first get over themselves and work through all those walls and barriers that make it so difficult for the good men with good intentions to get through to them.

What is awesome though is that there are men like Skipper out there.  Men that see through Miranda's bullshit and see her light.  It is those kind of men that allow someone like Miranda to heal and take a step closer to loosening up and being herself more.

So the moral of the story is that sex is sex.  It is there to be enjoyed and it is about what you are comfortable with.  Some say it is better with feeling, some say it is better without feeling.  For me, it is about simply getting over yourself and really about being open to being experienced and experiencing someone.  How deep an experience it is depends on the depth of how much of yourself you allow to be available to be experienced.

I am just excited that the possibility exists of someone seeing your light despite the walls and barriers you put up for protection.  Now that gives me hope that good men exist!  Mwah!