5 Things About Your Man And His Issues

I am not sure if it is universal across all relationships but somehow there is a drive with one within the partnership to rescue, nurture and comfort.  There will come a time in your relationships where your man has a bout of doubt in himself or doubt in what he is doing or the consequences he faces from some choices he has made.  This can range from anything in his life from his health, to his career or to  his happiness in general.  The question is what goes through your mind or heart when this man sits down and pours out where his head and heart is at and you have no idea how to make him feel better?  Some CrazeeBee observations to share :

1. He is still a human being! Which means he has choice which makes him responsible for his life and happiness.  Be careful it does not become your priority or responsibility to make his life better by taking on his pain and stress and making the choices for him
2. You are a human being!  You are unique and have all that makes you happy which is complimentary to him and not exactly the same values that make him happy.  So be sure that your priorities and what is important to you is not lost in trying to help him.   Be careful not to substitute your priorities with his to make his life all happy at a cost to you.  There is a middle ground which you need to get to.  There is a belief out there that sacrifice and compromise are the result of crap communication between partners.  Still exploring its practicality for me but it is a fascinating belief!
3. All you can do is offer options and advice.  It still is his choice and his consequences to deal with.  Also, be careful that is inability to make a decision or open himself to alternatives is a sign of your unworthiness.  Loving a successful strong inspiring man comes with a price of wanting to be a great support to him and being needed or being worthy to make him happy.  There is that trap you can easily fall into
4. It's always a negotiation when the consequence impacts your life as well.  It is about talking it out as to the next step that the partnership will take.  This works when you have your fears, insecurities and baggage in check to know what your filters are to make this s constructive next step discussion.  I can personally say that this is toughest trick to get right for me!
5. Unfortunately, there is no one-way fixes everything!  You have to feel and explore and learn case by case with him.  But through this all, if you remember to honor yourself and love, there will be a way that is right for both of you.  How to get there is unique to the couple