With any relationship comes a point where a truth comes out. Life will happen, experiences will come and go, pressure will mount and then that someone just says it like it is. No holding back, no minding their emotions, no minding how you feel about it or where you are in your head or heart, just the brutal, uncensored, unfiltered what they feel! This happens between best friends, colleagues, family and more so with a romantic partner! There are those times when all filters are down and that person speaks their brutal truth! Some ideas from CrazeeBee :
- Don't forget your boundaries! All too quickly we jump to the conclusion that the person is right and we have driven them to react this way with us so we must be bad. Listening to their point of view is important but it is equally important to weigh up what is being said and if there is something for you to work with and take note of. It is not about blind acceptance that what they're saying is the truth about you
- Listen! We all too quickly want to defend, and be heard on our terms. Listen and be curious to unpack it
- If you got hooked into the drama, when the dust settles, realise that it hit a nerve within you and that there is something for you to look at to understand if it is a healthy or unhealthy view that you carry around
- No matter what, the people in your life are mirrors and thus will reflect what you need to take note of. When you intend to remember that law, it does open your mind and heart to understand what truth you need to unfold
- This is a building block to more closeness and better communication as you both come to an understanding of each other in a deeper sense. When you come from a point of view of understanding that person better, you place yourself in a position to make loving choices when it comes to the next steps with that particular relationship
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