Baby Baby

I saw this video by chance the other day. What a delightful song indeed.  It is fun, playful and just all about being with your special one.  The stuff romantic movies are written about.  Love it!  This week, just be about play and fun with your special one.  Enjoy them and the lightness of simply laughing and having fun with each other.  Yum!

Baby Baby, I am taken with the motion with loving you with the sweetest of devotion

Friday Inspiration : Oprah's 3 Lessons

I really urge you listen to this video.  There is something about  graduating from University for those that have done the University thing.  I was so blessed to have attended one of the most prestigious universities in South Africa and do an amazing degree.  I do remember my graduation day.  The world was my oyster and the possibilities were so limitless.  It is good to go back to a space where you realise just how much possibility is out there.

I do believe that entrepreneurial energy is the one we all can benefit from in our work and play.  And it is not about owning and running your own business necessarily.  It is about how you balance resource, time, creativity, risk and action.  And this can apply to any part of your life to apply that energy.

Oprah is one of my all time heroes and someone I have so much love and respect for.  This video reminds why I love her so much!  I hope her wisdom helps you be the best you can be.

Mwah

CrazeeBee Love : True Blood Season 4

So I am happy that True Blood is back on TV.  Always love a good Vampire story.  My guilty indulgence is good fantasy series.  I will admit that I am a rather impatient get to the point of the mystery kind of guy, but there are some great storylines in season 4 that are simply delicious :

Most Engaging Story:
Eric and his amnesia is really adorable.  He is just become the perfect man after the his run in with the powerful witch.  He is open, attentive and just innocent.  Love it!





Most Mysterious Storylines:
The new witch in town is in an interesting storyline.  Nice to see that the vampires do not have all the power like they used to.  So curious how that will play out.  The medium storyline is interesting as well.     The french lady ghost has me intrigued.  What is the big deal with that baby?

Rocking Hunks:
Erik with his amnesia (adorable)
The Wolfman Alcide (Yum)

Strangely there are no rocking diva's so far in this season as there were in previous seasons.

Common Sense Does Not Equal To Your View

Would the world not be sooooo much better if everybody saw it like we did?  I mean our point of view is best!  Life is relatively good living by our standards so why can people just not play along and do what it is needed to make life better for themselves and the rest of the world?

The truth is, is that we want people to abide by the rules of life that make us happy!  No one else but us!




In this episode, Miranda is dating this screenwriter.  The sex is amazing but everytime he is done with sex with her, he runs off to the shower.  Miranda asks him about it and he says it was just a thing he picked up growing up catholic.  So Miranda makes it about herself and that he is wrong because how can he not see the error of what he believes.  So she tries to change him and ends up challenging his belief system.  This sets him off and he ends up dumping her!  Sigh! He was a cutie after all!



I have recently got it that we are all so different after all!  We all have our own unique priorities and value systems.  These govern our choices our actions and where we give the most attention.  The way to get what you want is to inspire someone to align.  Inspiration allows us to look at what we believe and make a choice to what is better for us.  And the trick is in how you communicate to someone.  When you communicate to someone within the framework of their value system or hot buttons, they are more engaged, listen and pay attention.

I have also found that this is one where you have to feel your way through each case that you encounter.  I mean was the fact that the man took a shower after sex with her really such a big deal?  It was so much about how bad Miranda was feeling about herself.  I mean where was the patience from her side to allow him to make his choice.  I mean if she just went with the flow, there was always a possibility that she would grow more special in time to him and then maybe he would not see it as a bad thing?

There is a thought out there that the trick is to get into a state of fair exchange.  Where what you love giving effortlessly is what the other loves receiving and vice versa.  Imagine in that situation that there is no room for compromise or sacrifice as both your needs are being met.  And yes, no one is saying that it happens magically but if one could learn the art of communicating what is important to you and the other person getting that, there is definitely room to getting close to that.

So as a start.  Try to start understanding the top 3 values of those close to you.  Then start working out how you can communicate to them in terms of those top 3 values.  I can guarantee that your world will change as a result of that.

Brutally Honest Conversations - 5 Things!

With any relationship comes a point where a truth comes out.  Life will happen, experiences will come and go, pressure will mount and then that someone just says it like it is.  No holding back, no minding their emotions, no minding how you feel about it or where you are in your head or heart, just the brutal, uncensored, unfiltered what they feel!  This happens between best friends, colleagues, family and more so with a romantic partner!  There are those times when all filters are down and that person speaks their brutal truth!  Some ideas from CrazeeBee :

1. Don't forget your boundaries!  All too quickly we jump to the conclusion that the person is right and we have driven them to react this way with us so we must be bad.  Listening to their point of view is important but it is equally important to weigh up what is being said and if there is something for you to work with and take note of.  It is not about blind acceptance that what they're saying is the truth about you
2. Listen!  We all too quickly want to defend, and be heard on our terms.  Listen and be curious to unpack it
3. If you got  hooked into the drama, when the dust settles, realise that it hit a nerve within you and that there is something for you to look at to understand if it is a healthy or unhealthy view that you carry around
4. No matter what, the people in your life are mirrors and thus will reflect what you need to take note of.    When you intend to remember that law, it does open your mind and heart to understand what truth you need to unfold
5. This is a building block to more closeness and better communication as you both come to an understanding of each other in a deeper sense.  When you come from a point of view of understanding that person better, you place yourself in a position to make loving choices when it comes to the next steps with that particular relationship

Gypsy

This is such a great song.  Shakira is as always a treat!  What is so great about this song is that it invites you to partake in the playfulness of life.  That you can go with what is in front of you and go with the flow.  It is about staying open, not getting too hung up on where you are and playing with love and curiosity with what is in front of you.  So for this week, PLAY! Be open, curious and go with the flow.  Delicious!

Walking gets too boring when you learn how to fly!

Take the top off and who knows what you will find
















Can't hide what I've done.  Scars remind me of just how far I've come