The ROCKlist - March 2011

So you would have noticed that I am a huge fan of music.  It adds a richness to my life and I highly recommend it to others to use to make life just a tad bit better.  So below is the Top 5 Most Played Tracks from the CrazeeBee iTunes Collection.  The top 5 songs I love of late  and why :

5 - California Gurls - Katie Perry - This song reminds me of how delicious we all are.  And once we are experienced we unfold with more flava for others to enjoy.  It boils down us being worthy of being explored and enjoyed.  Yum!

4 - Angel of Mine - Monica - There is a point when you look beyond a man and see the heart of him and what he is about.  I love that transition when you get past his looks, his body, his reputation, his titles and get to the heart of him.  When you see his magic, that is when the true connection with him begins and you see the value of him and to you.  This song takes me to that state of mind

3 - Defying Gravity - Anything the Glee Cast covers gets my attention!  This is one of my all time favourite songs from the Glee collection.  It is a constant reminder that what we believe drives our experience and reality in this world.  So I reminded when I hear this song that it is up to me and my choices to defy gravity and risk some things to reach bliss

2 - Journey to the Past - Aahliyah - This is such a big theme in my life of late.  My current life circumstances are  taking me back to points in my life where I had the opportunity to deal with my misunderstandings of experiences / taking on pain and giving me the space to choose differently and release that pain or belief.  Exciting, scary and a part of life to deal.  This song reminds me that I am given what I can handle, and all I need to do is take the next step and deal!

1 - What's my Name - Rihanna - Ofcourse this would be number one. Firstly, Rihanna is a ROCKstar which I love dearly.  This song brings out that side of me which is ready to explore someone else on more than one level and allow someone else to explore me on more than one level.  It's being comfortable to go in with who I am as I am no camouflages and having a guy meet that and get to know that.  Love that adventure!

Blog Crush : Being Gemel : It's In

I love this Blog post.  Simple yet powerful words!

http://gemelsworld.blogspot.com/2011/01/its-in.html

Some Things I Took Away From My Last Date

I am back on the dating scene.  I will admit, I need to get back into the swing of it.  But had an interesting one not so long ago and this is what I took away from the experience in no particular order :

1. Do not decide that a new hair mousse will do the great hair trick versus the tried and tested one you usually use!
2. Maybe going easy on the indulgence of chocolate in the get ready routine is a good idea?
3. The self conscious thing can get in the way and block you from being free to let go and be in the moment with that person
4. It helps to follow your gut / heart on the next step 
5. It helps even more when you simply ask him about the next step.  It takes a courage to handle the answer  no matter what it is
6. Wearing an awesome fragrance is always a great idea
7. Have the courage to be honest with your point of views and how you see the world
8. Be open to understand another point of view
9. Go easy on yourself! You are doing better than you think!
10. Leave analysis paralysis to those who want to stay single.  Simply go with the flow and enjoy what is in front of you ;)

I'm Your Love Dealer

I am back on the dating scene.  Sometimes it's scary and sometimes it's fun.  In the spirit of that, I present to you this sexy sexy song.  We have a specialness that is unique to us.  There is nothing wrong with having someone indulge in your specialness.  So Go Ahead, Pimp out your specialness!  Get them hooked on your love!  Yum Yum!

Blog Crush : A Slice of Gay Pie: Sagittarius

Some more Blog Love from my side.  Below is a sexy view on the Sagittarius man!  It has appealed to me for a number of reasons! But it has to do with lessons from Wiseman Nos 7

A Slice of Gay Pie: Sagittarius: "Sexual Ecstasy 
 The Sagittarius man is the classic adventurer, optimistic and full of life, spontaneous, lovable and in search for fre..."

Blog Crush : Mylifescape: 7 things to a happier life

I am loving certain Blogs of late.  Below find one of my Blog Crush posts that I love!

Mylifescape: 7 things to a happier life: "1. Be eager to let go of the need of control2. Give your attention to how you feel, you can choose how to react 3. Feel hopeful and expe..."

Simply Delicious! Indulgence Of Note!

We all have those things that simply call for indulging.  So here is to simply dive into the BLISS just because you can!  Yay!

5) Dancing with the best music at top volume singing your lungs out and moving almost every part of body possible!

4) Having a healing conversation with another human being.  It is connected, intuitive and engaging.  You lose the world around you and can get fully into the moment of that conversation

3) Surrendering to the moment.  It is when you let go and let all that control and protection drain out of you.  You realise what freedom feels like and what it is to truly engage in the bliss of that moment!  You really get this concept in a floatation tank!  Wow is all I can say.

2)  Eating Food Made With Love!  There is something sooooo special about this. When you cook with love and awesome energy and then eat that.  It is simply amazing to take in.

1)  Connecting to wisdom, universal intelligence and knowing.  There is no greater feeling of calm, peace, safety and bliss.  There are so many ways to connect to this but when you do, it is simply BLISSFUL!

Rock That Body

This song is sooooooo awesome.  It has an amazing energy of ROCKING in the present moment.  So yes we all have our body BULLSH#T!  That is what it really is, a load of nonsense that we keep telling ourselves that we simply not good enough because of a body part.  With this song, let's invite the attitude of embracing and loving what we got RIGHT NOW AS IT IS!

Turn it up on full volume and dance my dears.  Shake all that can be shaken.  Lose yourself in this song and rock your body full of love!  I dare you!  Blast this!  Yay!

Simply dance away your hatred, your frustration, your sadness when it comes to your body!  Work it! Work in the love!

There Is Something About Katie Cassidy

I am loving Katie Cassidy of late.  I cannot put my finger on it but I know it has something to do with the fresh, intelligent, think on your feet style she brings to her characters.  I am simply loving it.  Diva Deluxe!

Love in Supernatural Season 3 how she is a Demon that goes against the norm.  Her dark side portrayed by the character is rather sexy I must say!  And she kicks ass well!











Gossip Girl Season 4 sees her as a girl with a plan and a mission to bring down some of the others.  Still quick on her feet to think of ways to deceive.
















My all time favorite was her in Melrose Place.  She is talented, driven, creative and simply honest on all counts.  Never apologizing for who she is and knowing how to play the game of life.  Also always seeming to land on her feet  no matter what.  I loved how she had a soft spot for the people she loved!

The Concept Of Fair Exchange!

Life is about give and take.  I have discovered the following phrase from Dr John Demartini that has struck a chord.

Everyday, I look to ways in which I can give others what they love and receive what I love.

It is all about working towards win-win relationships.  There is opportunity each day for you to look at what is exchanged in your dealings with others.  Are you clear on your terms of what is fair exchange?  Are you giving service that is of value and is it what you love that is making that service a reality?  Are you receiving reward that you love?

The great news is that it is not always like for like and it does not always mean that money exchanges hands.  When you look at what you give to your work, your partner, your family and your friends.  Do you have a sense of what you giving and what you receiving?  Is it working for you in terms of giving what you love and receiving what you love?

Some food for thought!

xoxo

Yum Yum Cricket Players . . . . 1

It is the ICC 2011 World Cup Cricket.  Obviously I am backing the South African Boys as they do what they need to do.  Below is one of the yummiest of the Proteas!

The lovely and butchy Graeme Smith!  Love Him!

5 Things I Loved . . . . . . .

It has been a crazy couple of weeks for me.  All in all, I gather that the Universe is asking that I look into the concept of setting healthy boundaries and engaging in fair exchange in all that I do.  Despite the craziness, some stuff has caught the love zone:

5 - Supernatural - I am addicted addicted addicted to it ever since I discovered it.  The boys are super sexy on the hunt for evil.

4 - Hot Bubble Baths with awesome music - It is does the world of wonder for your sanity to soak in the tub with some awesome music playing in the background.  Highly recommend it.

3 - Attending a Birthday Party where old friends gather - It is so great to run into dear old friends all re-united in a place of love and community

2 - Pleasant Surprises - I was in a book store and they offered head and shoulder massages.  Yum!  I got to read while getting those knots worked out. Yum!

1 - Acts of Surrender - Meditation, going with the flow and being in the moments are beautiful acts of surrender.  The state of allowing what must be.  It is a marvelous time to practice and be in that state!

Perfect Body = Awesome Sex

Is it really true?  To have the best sex ever means to truly let go and simply be fully in the moment of it!  To let go means to trust, have faith and courage to leap and know all will be well.  It means being able to feel that with your partner at the time you get your groove on!  To truly feel the power of an orgasm means alignment!  Alignment of mind and body to be in that moment to ride the experience to its fullest.

Sex has a way of bringing attention on one's body.  By the fact that it is so physical and exposes you on a physical and emotional level, it does allow for negative mental chatter for most of us.  Our straight friends have the concept of contrast when it comes to their bodies.  Seeing that a man has no context of what it means to be in a women's body, there is an expectation of what the perfect women's body is.  So you get women, who strive to have that unrealistic body!  The same for our straight men.  On the gay front, similarity is awesome so you would think we would understand our partner better.  Instead the opportunity of comparison hits home more than one would expect.  Because you able to compare bodies like for like, negative stories can leave one feeling extremely worthless.

But we miss the big message!  The perfect body is not the definition that our partner or potential partners give us.  The perfect body is that definition that pops up when you naked and looking at yourself in the mirror.  Notice that the people in your life that have awesome sex usually have a great balance of what they feel about their body and having that comfortability with their partner or partners!  When you get the trick that it is getting underneath that mental chatter into the moment you are with him and experiencing him that the opportunity to trust him and let go is HUGE!

And to trust and have faith is simply shown to you in how you trust and have faith in yourself.  When you have life and the moments before you, how you can trust yourself to go with what is in front of you and having a sense that you will be ok no matter what happens.

So yes! To have awesome sex means having the perfect body.  But it boils down to that definition you have and how you embody that.  So what you waiting for?  Question your definition of the perfect body. Maybe it is time to get one that empowers you and allows for awesome sex!

I am struggling to find a downside here with the above approach :)

Spread Your Wings And Soar

I love Christina! This is one of my favorite all time Christina songs.  It speaks to turn inside and trust in your voice that is within.  Love is there all the time and will open a door for you.  The answers will unfold if you allow them to.  So go ahead and trust what comes from within.  This is needed especially when life is going tough and is scary!  Trust in the path revealing itself.  SOAR!!

The Wiseman Chronicles : Wiseman Nos 6

Also Known As : Mr Twister! Mr Jekyll and Hyde!

Most Attractive Quality : There is a delicious centre.  Although it is surrounded by a sarcastic, horrible, sometimes nasty exterior, deep down there is a lovable, pure, delicious centre.

Most Adorable Quality : When that delicious centre comes out to play, you cannot believe how 180 degrees this man can go.

He Makes You Feel : That you can bring out the best in him because you are soooo special and one of a kind!  You are the only one that bring this out in him!

He Resonates with : That wants someone to adore you for all the great in you.  That someone can be so in awe with your greatness, that it inspires  them to change and be the best they can be for you.

This man has is challenges.  He has barriers and getting that connection to the heart of him is tricky.  Unlike Wiseman Nos 3 who is so good at hiding his baggage and is able to weave a web of an alternate reality around you, Wiseman Nos 6 at least is honest about where he struggles to be the best he can be or strong in certain areas.

You are also in a state of awareness and have more experience on your side when dealing with a man that has insecurities that he has work through.  The question is whether you are there because you can rescue him so you have someone that will love you forever because of what you have done for them?  Or are you about helping him find his way being the true friend?  Or is it great to have someone just that more messed up than you?  Being with someone like that makes you the powerful one in the relationship?

The bottom line, he is still figuring out how to be secure in himself and owning making himself happy.  The temptation for you to fill that role of making him happy and being needed is huge.  He draws you in with all his vulnerability and you know that he needs someone to just love him the right way.  You also know deep down that it is his job not yours!

At the Core of Desire:

Wiseman Nos 6 reminds you that at the end of the day, you are not responsible for someone else's happiness, inner peace and growth. All you can do is focus on your happiness and being the best person you can be. There is no prize for taking responsibility for another man's happiness and well being. Being you that inspires him to take action and own that action to be the best he can be is a good thing. As long as you know that when you finding the need to work hard at keeping him secure, happy and safe, that you know at some point, you will need to have the courage to let go and let him figure it out for himself!