Marriage Plus Baby Equals Death

The SINGLE-hood!  The kind of words /phrases that go with it include freedom, fun, lightness, NO sacrifice, NO one to consider in decisions and independence.  The concept of a husband and children somehow make the house crowded and there seems to be just so much more to making life happen than just taking care of yourself and being able to do whatever you want to without answering to anyone else!

In this episode, Miranda and friends get invited to a baby shower of a once wild child friend of theirs.  Miranda sees the whole marriage and child thing as a cult that sucks you away from the free and wonderful life.  She basically equated it to death as she could not be herself, independent and would need to accommodate other individuals and have herself going last in the queue or even disappearing all together!

So it seems from Miranda's perspective that it comes down to choice of keeping who you are or losing who you are to a child and marriage.  That you really cannot have it all if you want the family life to come along.  It is a fear for people who work so hard to get their independence, success and living a life on their terms.  When that is so important to an individual, I can imagine how the idea of losing yourself is a scary one.

With anything in life, it is about evolving.  I can speak personally from my friends who have gone into parenthood and marriage and will tell you that it is one of the most exciting adventures they have been on.  None of them have said it was easy but all say that it is worth it.  For me, it is about understanding what is joyful and fulfilling for you.  It is not about compromise and sacrifice.  It really is about where your values are and what they mean for where you are in your life.  For someone who values the complete freedom of not considering more than one person in their decision making, the idea of kids and a committed relationship would not serve that.  For someone who values connection and building something special in the family space, then a marriage and kids would serve them.

I don't believe that  marriage plus a baby equals death.  I do believe that marriage and a baby are a consequence of where one's values and priorities are.  So as and when or as and if it comes that it becomes a priority, it will naturally flow and become real in one's life.  And by the time that swings by, that person will be in that mindset to go with the flow and deal with what comes from that journey.

So all we need to know is that life is what life needs to be right now for where our priorities, values and whatever fulfills us places us.  Some of us are in a fantasy and cannot see that our real desire is being met.  And some of us are fully aware of where we are based on what we value.  Either way, we are what we believe!  Mwah!

5 Things About The Perfect Man & Perfect Relationship

I was at a Dr Demartini talk not too long ago.  There was something big that he shared that got me thinking about life differently.  I love it when those experiences come along when you are  invited to look at life differently.  Anyhoo  . . . . . .

He spoke about this concept that whatever you desire is already in your life, it is just a matter of recognizing the form it is in!  That is huge as it means that you are never lacking anything, it is just in a form that you do not see or understand.  So naturally, I asked myself about where my current perfect man for me has manifested?  To protect privacy, I cannot give too much away but currently, the perfect man for me is split into 3!  An amazing man (someone I truly admire), another sexy man (a sexy friend)  and my MacBook.  Hehehehehe 

Let's say, I now understand why it is difficult for one man to step into my boyfriend role!

Here are 5 things to honor my current manifestation of MY MAN!

1. I get to have the most amazing conversations and get to just be me and share in the most amazing ways. They are not afraid to just be themselves and vulnerable with me and know that I still see them as strong and amazing
2. I get to laugh and can go on a great journey with them.  Everytime I get to spend with them is an adventure
3. It sexiness at its best.  They are settled in themselves and have such a great vision of their world.  They know how to have fun and just live a good life and be in their skin.  It is inspiring
4. I still get to maintain my independence and be myself.  I don't feel like I lose myself and I get to be the crazee that I am known for around them and they are so ok with that ;)
5. There are tough times and there are disagreements and judgement calls on what I could work on to be better but somehow I manage get over my fears and insecurities and work it with them and continue my strong connection with them

Landslide

This song is simply beautiful.  Change in you and change in those you love and hate are inevitable.  All you can do is either resist it or allow it.  The beauty is to realise that you are equipped to deal with it and maybe, youcan give yourself permission to be brave and have the courage to allow what it brings.  Enjoy the lyrics.  They are simply beautiful!


I took my love and I took it down
Climbed a mountain then I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
Where the Landslide brought me down


Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above
Can I sail through the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life


Uh ah . . . .  uh ah . . . . .  uh ah  . . . . . . 


Well, I've been afraid of changin'
'Cause I've built my whole life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I'm getting older too


Instrumental

Well, I've been afraid of changin'

'Cause I've built my whole life around you

But time makes you bolder

Children get older

I'm getting older too

Well, I'm getting older too


So, take this love and take it down
Yeah, and if you climb that mountain and turn around
And if you see my reflection in the snowed covered hills
Well the Landslide brought me down


If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills


Well maybe . . . . . . 
Well maybe . . . . . . 
Well maybe . . . . . . 


The landslide brought me down

CrazeeBee Love : Bless The Rugby Player : Pierre Spies

In honor of the Rugby World Cup, Pierre Spies gets CrazeeBee love.  I believe that there should be a new rule passed for rugby where they play the game as Pierre's attire below.  He does it so effortlessly! Enjoy Mr Pierre.  Local grown South African Talent!  Oh, and CrazeeBee sends the Amabokke love and good luck for the World Cup.  Bring the trophy home lads.  Let's make it number 3!

5 Things From My John Edward Experience

John Edward was in South Africa and I decided to go to one of his shows.  I will admit that I am still figuring out whether using a medium can add value to my life or not.  I am all for higher wisdom and I am curious to what happens when you leave this earth.  I do know that I need to unpack and understand this practice a bit more when the time is right for me.  So here are some key highlights from my experience:

1. John is a cutie!  There is something hot about him.  Very witty and sarcastic.  Had me in stitches for most of the evening.  I made him out to be this serious dude but he really has a wise lightness about him
2. The major theme was about reconnecting people with those that had crossed over.  I will admit that it did irritate me as I could not understand why it was all about a reunion.  What happened to asking questions to how it was on the other side and what it all meant rather than hearing that there was love?  It did get me a little worked up
3. I liked John's definition of Heaven.  How it is very similar to the internet and any social networking tool.  You have the ability to connect to it and so do your loved ones have the ability to connect to you.  It's about raising your awareness.  Heaven is all around you
4. I do feel for more quality, one probably has to go a bit more private with this kind of thing.  I was freakin out at what personal stuff was coming up for some people.  Was not sure if I could deal with that kind of uncontrolled exposure in such a wide group of people
5. My biggest take away from this experience is that your loved ones that have crossed over are around you and speak to you.  It is how you connect and become aware of it.  John put it beautifully that he gets in the way as a medium of something (a connection / a line) that is already there between you and your loved ones.  All he does is provide another voice to what is already there

Beautiful People

What a hot song!  Well done to Chris Brown.  This song is a summer turn up the heat kind of song.  Can you see yourself in one of those big parties in a huge park with the heat turned up and you loving life to the max.  This is just one of those feel good songs.  Do turn up the volume to blast and simply dance.  Dance for joy!  Mwah!

Crazeebee Love : Yummy Sexy Man Hands

I have been completely fascinated by sexy man hands.  Strong, sexy manly hands.  Now that deserves some love.  There is someone in my life that has got my interest.  And I will admit his hands have my attention.  They are simply gorgeous.  Something like the second pic.  So I am giving some love out for the all the sexy manhands out there in the world.  Interesting thing is that I could hardly find any on the internet.  That has been interesting.  Enjoy some dose of manly hands.  Yum!

Strong Hands have their uses :)

Strong Rugby Hands.  Yum

Safe Sex

Sex Toys!  I have no idea what the real stats on sex toys are and what the bottom line could be.  I do know that some people have them, enjoy them and have them handy in case of back up.  There are some that believe that sex toys close the door for another person to enter your life, there are some that believe that in this world of HIV that sex toys are probably the safer route to go and then there are some that believe that sex toys are the eventual replacement of a man!

In this episode, Miranda goes on about about how obsolete men will become one day.  That they are no longer needed for marriage, relationships, money and even sex.  She got herself a sex toy and could proudly announce that she could guarantee her next orgasm without working a man into the equation.

Sex Toys are considered safer sex as you only have to deal with yourself in the whole equation.  There is a machine that has no feeling, cannot give you feedback and do exactly what you command it to do. There is no contrast, no reflection back to you of anything, just you, your toy and the safety of a protected environment to get rather intimate and let go!

There is nothing wrong or right with the above.  If your desire is to connect with another deeply and share something special, then at some point, the toy needs to take a vacation for the man to be in a place to connect with.  With anything in life, it is about balance!  It is about opening up to experience and being honest with yourself.

I bet that Miranda at that point in her life, would rather deal with a sex toy than with a man.  It just seemed easier and safer.  And why?  Because there really was not another human being to deal with.  Another human being that would reflect back and mirror stuff back to Miranda to deal with.  And there would be no doubt that there would be some tough stuff for her to deal with given her state of mind.  Men can be compared to objects and are disposal and to be controlled, so that would be the type of level of man she would have to deal with.

So to those that have sex toys, ENJOY them.  Always remember that it is about being happy and comfortable in your own skin first.  Give other human beings the respect of connection and be humble and curious when dealing with them.

Mwah!

5 Things About The Boep!

The infamous Boep.  For most men who don't look after themselves as they should, the boep does get to a point of simply getting in the way in more ways than one.  I have been so wrapped up in work that I am neglecting me in a big way and as a result, my boep has grown!  I am not surprised and just need to get back to balance again!

1. Yes it is all about what you eat.  I cannot even begin to get out of that with any other story but that it comes down to what you eat
2. On a spiritual level, excess fat is protection or something to get your attention.  I feel for me, it is me going into my one dimensional mode again that life is all work and hence my boep alarm is going off again
3. Johannesburg does not know how to transition into summer, so the heat is upping fast and the winter clothes no longer offer protection.  So it's exposure of what has gestated over the winter months.  Eeeeeeeeek!
4. It's uncomfortable!  But what other way to get one's attention to take note of a message
5. It too shall pass!  A boep is temporary and can go away.  Yay for that!

I'm Ready For The Un-Thinkable

Miss Alicia Keys is a beautiful soul and makes beautiful soulful music.  This song is about courage and diving in.  I love how it make you feel that swelling up of good energy that pushes you into a bout of inspired, harmonious action.  Delicious!  There is surely something in your life that you feel strongly about that if you had courage, you would plunge in and follow your heart.  Go on and be open to feel what is right for you and then choose your best option.  Enjoy!

Moment of honesty, Someone's gotta take the lead tonight! 

It's becoming something impossible to ignore!
















I wondering maybe, could I make you my baby


If you ask me, I'm Ready!

5 Things That Are Different When You Are Older



I have been sleep deprived for the past few days and I can honestly say that I am not as young as I used to be.  Being in the IT Project Industry has its demands on one. An IT system never sleeps and simply expects you to keep up with it.  The super long hours and driving myself to work hard is taking it's toll. The bounce back is not as easy as it used to be.  It truly is a different perspective from when you were in your 20's.  The difference is :

1. You can literally see how a bad lifestyle or neglecting yourself manifests on your body and face!  Eeeeeeeeeek!  All I will say is strong, super hectic eye cream!
2. Sleep is a dear friend and you really miss it when it is not around
3. You ask yourself if it is worth it with higher frequency than when you were younger
4. There are really not that many people as before that you want to impress and it starts becoming about spending time where you believe gives you the greatest value
5. Drawing boundaries and saying NO for the right reasons is more evident than ever

The Strength You Have

You were never meant to break and your spirit could never die.  So that should never be something to fear.  You are so much stronger, wiser and resilient than you think you are.  This song reminds one that there is power all around you and available to you.  There is no need to be this all perfect, all knowing, all wonder person.  You have the ability to command such power to live your best life or deal with any situation that is in front of you.

I am learning the concept of demanding power versus commanding power.  Demanding is admitting you have to be bigger, be better, be perfect!  Commanding power is knowing that you have access to it.  This power can flow through you and allow you to deal with whatever is in front of you.

Use this song to encourage you to connect and command the wisdom, power and love that is available to you at any time.  Love CB

Be Curious!

Curiosity is something that is very fascinating and can change the way you engage with life and others.  Being curious puts you in a very positive and inviting space when dealing with a situation or person.  The tendency is to judge the person or situation and all the openess and learning is zapped from that  moment that you find yourself in.

Being curious allows you to open your mind, your heart  and your ability to deepen your understanding.  You are able to question delightfully and with no judgment.  You unpack a situation with no expectation.  You create a space to learn, to embrace, to understand and to safely share.

This is particularly difficult as a practice for me but I am definitely open to practising the art of curiosity with situations, myself and people.  So maybe the next time, your partner frustrates you, or a situation has you wondering what you did to deserve that pain or you simply find yourself in a crappy headspace, maybe soaking in some curiosity and then approaching it could unfold something pretty wonderful.  Try it out and please share ;)

CrazeeBee Love : The iPhone

I love my iPhone.  I switched from BlackBerry to iPhone a few weeks ago and I will say that I am loving my iPhone.  It just fits so well into my life.  My most favorite features:

• It now syncs seamlessly with my MacBook Pro.  Yay!
• Apps for Skype, Computicket, Business Day and Notes get some awesome love
• There is this one app called easynote where I can do lists and mail them.  Best notetaker ever!
• All I need technology wise is in one place.  Music, Internet, Calls, GPS etc
• My world is even more connected than ever before
• Best conference call facility I have experienced on a mobile phone

Happy Days with my iPhone!