Baby Baby

I saw this video by chance the other day. What a delightful song indeed.  It is fun, playful and just all about being with your special one.  The stuff romantic movies are written about.  Love it!  This week, just be about play and fun with your special one.  Enjoy them and the lightness of simply laughing and having fun with each other.  Yum!

Baby Baby, I am taken with the motion with loving you with the sweetest of devotion

Friday Inspiration : Oprah's 3 Lessons

I really urge you listen to this video.  There is something about  graduating from University for those that have done the University thing.  I was so blessed to have attended one of the most prestigious universities in South Africa and do an amazing degree.  I do remember my graduation day.  The world was my oyster and the possibilities were so limitless.  It is good to go back to a space where you realise just how much possibility is out there.

I do believe that entrepreneurial energy is the one we all can benefit from in our work and play.  And it is not about owning and running your own business necessarily.  It is about how you balance resource, time, creativity, risk and action.  And this can apply to any part of your life to apply that energy.

Oprah is one of my all time heroes and someone I have so much love and respect for.  This video reminds why I love her so much!  I hope her wisdom helps you be the best you can be.

Mwah

CrazeeBee Love : True Blood Season 4

So I am happy that True Blood is back on TV.  Always love a good Vampire story.  My guilty indulgence is good fantasy series.  I will admit that I am a rather impatient get to the point of the mystery kind of guy, but there are some great storylines in season 4 that are simply delicious :

Most Engaging Story:
Eric and his amnesia is really adorable.  He is just become the perfect man after the his run in with the powerful witch.  He is open, attentive and just innocent.  Love it!





Most Mysterious Storylines:
The new witch in town is in an interesting storyline.  Nice to see that the vampires do not have all the power like they used to.  So curious how that will play out.  The medium storyline is interesting as well.     The french lady ghost has me intrigued.  What is the big deal with that baby?

Rocking Hunks:
Erik with his amnesia (adorable)
The Wolfman Alcide (Yum)

Strangely there are no rocking diva's so far in this season as there were in previous seasons.

Common Sense Does Not Equal To Your View

Would the world not be sooooo much better if everybody saw it like we did?  I mean our point of view is best!  Life is relatively good living by our standards so why can people just not play along and do what it is needed to make life better for themselves and the rest of the world?

The truth is, is that we want people to abide by the rules of life that make us happy!  No one else but us!




In this episode, Miranda is dating this screenwriter.  The sex is amazing but everytime he is done with sex with her, he runs off to the shower.  Miranda asks him about it and he says it was just a thing he picked up growing up catholic.  So Miranda makes it about herself and that he is wrong because how can he not see the error of what he believes.  So she tries to change him and ends up challenging his belief system.  This sets him off and he ends up dumping her!  Sigh! He was a cutie after all!



I have recently got it that we are all so different after all!  We all have our own unique priorities and value systems.  These govern our choices our actions and where we give the most attention.  The way to get what you want is to inspire someone to align.  Inspiration allows us to look at what we believe and make a choice to what is better for us.  And the trick is in how you communicate to someone.  When you communicate to someone within the framework of their value system or hot buttons, they are more engaged, listen and pay attention.

I have also found that this is one where you have to feel your way through each case that you encounter.  I mean was the fact that the man took a shower after sex with her really such a big deal?  It was so much about how bad Miranda was feeling about herself.  I mean where was the patience from her side to allow him to make his choice.  I mean if she just went with the flow, there was always a possibility that she would grow more special in time to him and then maybe he would not see it as a bad thing?

There is a thought out there that the trick is to get into a state of fair exchange.  Where what you love giving effortlessly is what the other loves receiving and vice versa.  Imagine in that situation that there is no room for compromise or sacrifice as both your needs are being met.  And yes, no one is saying that it happens magically but if one could learn the art of communicating what is important to you and the other person getting that, there is definitely room to getting close to that.

So as a start.  Try to start understanding the top 3 values of those close to you.  Then start working out how you can communicate to them in terms of those top 3 values.  I can guarantee that your world will change as a result of that.

Brutally Honest Conversations - 5 Things!

With any relationship comes a point where a truth comes out.  Life will happen, experiences will come and go, pressure will mount and then that someone just says it like it is.  No holding back, no minding their emotions, no minding how you feel about it or where you are in your head or heart, just the brutal, uncensored, unfiltered what they feel!  This happens between best friends, colleagues, family and more so with a romantic partner!  There are those times when all filters are down and that person speaks their brutal truth!  Some ideas from CrazeeBee :

1. Don't forget your boundaries!  All too quickly we jump to the conclusion that the person is right and we have driven them to react this way with us so we must be bad.  Listening to their point of view is important but it is equally important to weigh up what is being said and if there is something for you to work with and take note of.  It is not about blind acceptance that what they're saying is the truth about you
2. Listen!  We all too quickly want to defend, and be heard on our terms.  Listen and be curious to unpack it
3. If you got  hooked into the drama, when the dust settles, realise that it hit a nerve within you and that there is something for you to look at to understand if it is a healthy or unhealthy view that you carry around
4. No matter what, the people in your life are mirrors and thus will reflect what you need to take note of.    When you intend to remember that law, it does open your mind and heart to understand what truth you need to unfold
5. This is a building block to more closeness and better communication as you both come to an understanding of each other in a deeper sense.  When you come from a point of view of understanding that person better, you place yourself in a position to make loving choices when it comes to the next steps with that particular relationship

Gypsy

This is such a great song.  Shakira is as always a treat!  What is so great about this song is that it invites you to partake in the playfulness of life.  That you can go with what is in front of you and go with the flow.  It is about staying open, not getting too hung up on where you are and playing with love and curiosity with what is in front of you.  So for this week, PLAY! Be open, curious and go with the flow.  Delicious!

Walking gets too boring when you learn how to fly!

Take the top off and who knows what you will find
















Can't hide what I've done.  Scars remind me of just how far I've come

Bless Rugby Players : Sean O'Brien

So the world cup did not go as expected for South Africa.  My heart goes out to the Springboks.  Next time boys.  My second favourite team was Ireland.  Something about the Irish charm that I could not resist!  So from that lot of charming lads, Sean O'Brien got my attention.  Enjoy him.  He is not a drop dead gorgeous adonis.  But there is just something very sweet, inviting and homely ;)

5 Things About Your Man And His Issues

I am not sure if it is universal across all relationships but somehow there is a drive with one within the partnership to rescue, nurture and comfort.  There will come a time in your relationships where your man has a bout of doubt in himself or doubt in what he is doing or the consequences he faces from some choices he has made.  This can range from anything in his life from his health, to his career or to  his happiness in general.  The question is what goes through your mind or heart when this man sits down and pours out where his head and heart is at and you have no idea how to make him feel better?  Some CrazeeBee observations to share :

1. He is still a human being! Which means he has choice which makes him responsible for his life and happiness.  Be careful it does not become your priority or responsibility to make his life better by taking on his pain and stress and making the choices for him
2. You are a human being!  You are unique and have all that makes you happy which is complimentary to him and not exactly the same values that make him happy.  So be sure that your priorities and what is important to you is not lost in trying to help him.   Be careful not to substitute your priorities with his to make his life all happy at a cost to you.  There is a middle ground which you need to get to.  There is a belief out there that sacrifice and compromise are the result of crap communication between partners.  Still exploring its practicality for me but it is a fascinating belief!
3. All you can do is offer options and advice.  It still is his choice and his consequences to deal with.  Also, be careful that is inability to make a decision or open himself to alternatives is a sign of your unworthiness.  Loving a successful strong inspiring man comes with a price of wanting to be a great support to him and being needed or being worthy to make him happy.  There is that trap you can easily fall into
4. It's always a negotiation when the consequence impacts your life as well.  It is about talking it out as to the next step that the partnership will take.  This works when you have your fears, insecurities and baggage in check to know what your filters are to make this s constructive next step discussion.  I can personally say that this is toughest trick to get right for me!
5. Unfortunately, there is no one-way fixes everything!  You have to feel and explore and learn case by case with him.  But through this all, if you remember to honor yourself and love, there will be a way that is right for both of you.  How to get there is unique to the couple

Right There

Looks like I am still feeling this sexiness!  So why not just go with it.  Another sizzler of a sexy song by Miss Nicole.  The girl can move and is uber sexy.  Enjoy this hot number.  All I will say is sway those hips as sexy as miss thang.  Amen!

Me like the way you hold my body
Me like the way you touch my body
Me like the way you kiss my . . . . . 

Come here Baby eh be my Baby
Eh be my Baby oh oh oh
Come here baby put your hands on my body

Your Resistance Is the Key!

Have you ever had the opportunity to simply sit down and take in where you resist stuff in life?  It is quite an interesting process when you start feeling your way through to happiness and then stumble across a bundle of eeeecky feelings when all you trying to do is feel blissful.  Bad feelings have a place and they are such a powerful tool to remind you that you are resisting some form of great in your life.

Look at what you makes you feel happy when you look to what success means to you.  For some it is in the form of wealth, for some it is some form of achievement or accolades, others it is a title or a state of influence!  And for most it is a state of mind that you are in harmony, in sync and safe in what you do!  That is what probably defines success in my mind.  You feel plugged into something awesome and that everything just comes together effortlessly and there are results.  Some of us realise it on the way to the end point of a particular journey and some only realise this at the end looking back at their journey.

For me, there is a need to understand what you resist when it comes to enjoying success.  Is there guilt that you somehow feel that to be successful that you need to work hard and long hours?  Is there lack of faith because there is no sweat or challenge?  Must the road be tough first before you get to success?  Is there a fear that you are not worthy because how can awesome things just happen to you?  Would you not need to pay some form of dues for that success?

Just something that has been playing on my mind.  I do believe that smart, focused, genius work is needed to be successful.  I do believe that one needs to be proactive, be able to balance risk and reward creatively and one needs to get innovative with the resources at your disposal with anything you undertake in life.  But it does not always equate to tough, long and tedious hours of slogging!  There is an element of harmony and high energy and engagement of all senses to produce superior results.

It puts a whole new twist on "work smarter not harder".  Look at what you resist to being successful or welcoming success into your life.  Where you feel guilty, stressed or fearful will give you your clues to what you resisting to let success in.

Just a thought to consider when making your choices to what you really want to believe.  What is your full story that you buy when it comes to enjoying success . . . . . . . . . . . . . mwah

CrazeeBee Love : Glee Covers

So I am a "Gleek".  I love Glee covers.  Just something special about how they are able to put so much magic into the songs they do.  I love it.  Here is my list of all time Glee favourites from the CrazeeBee tune list:

1. Defying Gravity
2. Raise Your Glass
3. I feel Pretty / Unpretty
4. Landslide
5. Empire State Of Mind

The Drought

Sex!  It is the reality of those that have ventured there, tried it and loved it.  And yes, for the person that knows how great it can be, there is the need to try and get some in on a regular basis.  Some keep it within a relationship and some keep it going by trying different men.  It all does come down to connecting and enjoying intimacy with someone.

In this episode, Miranda was going through a drought of note.  She was on the 3 month no sex mark and was beginning to feel the emptiness of not having regular sex with someone.  She distracted herself and was in this rut of self hatred and frustration because she had not found someone to enjoy that intimacy with.

This is one subject I guess gets attention whichever emotion is attached to it.  It manages to get some sort of focus whatever walk of life you come from.  No matter how strongly some of us feel about it, or how many of us deny its existence, sex has a place in our lives.  Whether we like it or not, it has a place.  Existing or not existing!

So what happens when it simply just disappears on you after enjoying it for some time?

Well, I have come to understand that all we want is around us, just in a form that we do not recognize.  So that high, that experience we get back from sex is manifested in a different form.  There has to be something in one's life where they get the same high as when having great sex.  For some it is the form of creating art, a project, a venture, their families etc or simply the visual stimulation of watching others go at it on film, or browsing through provocative sexy pics of men etc!

Either way it is channelled into something else and not the act itself.  All I can say on this subject is that when it ain't around, one has to ask the question of where you channelling all that energy and loving?  And one can most likely work it back to where your priorities are.  Again, it is the choice of sticking to what your current priorities are, or allowing them to shift.  But there is no denying that when sex is connected, synced, intimate and emotionally and physically safe, there is just no beating it and this CrazeeBee would certainly miss that kind of special experience ;)

So enjoy it when it is around and when it disappears, know that you can make your back it simply by allowing a shift in your priorities.  For some, the road back is longer.  Faith and the art of allowing is all I'm saying xoxo

5 Things From Funerals / Memorial Services

I recently had to say goodbye to a great man that played a part in one of the most significant milestones in my my life.  I never imagined that the day would come where I would have to attend a funeral of someone my age at this time in my life.  But death is as much a part of life on earth as anything else.  So as I was sitting in the church, the following was very clear to me:

1. I love how amongst all religions or spiritual practices that there is one of the themes that stay constant.  That you have access to a great power and that this great power is there whenever you need it.  We may not fully understand it but it is there helping us live our best life
2. If ever you ask how to be of value to those grieving.  It is simply saying, I am here for you.  That's all.  Nothing profound is needed, nothing to soothe pain, it is simply you being willing to be there for that person
3. There is laughter and joy at funerals.  It is a time to remember and cherish what was great about that person and how they touched the lives that are there to pay respect
4. Going back to your hometown after a long time is a way to make you see how you have evolved.  You realise when you open, that you can change for the better
5. You have the opportunity to take stock and really question if you are doing what you need to do to live and fulfil your best life. You appreciate how short life is and that it should not be wasted on things that do not bring you joy

I'm Into You

J.Lo as always is uber urban and hip.  Love this track to bits.  It's sexy and you can just sing it to your man.  Let him know that he has your love and appreciation of him just as he is.  All I can is just be sexy with this song and enjoy it.  Here is a funfilled and sexy week!

You've got me and I could not defend it
I tried but I had to surrender

I'm not the one easy to get to
But all that changed, baby when I met you

5 Things From JHB Pride 2011

It was Johannesburg Pride this past weekend.  And I will admit, it was an awesome pride and one that I will remember.  There was something special in the air.  I believe that the shifts I  made of late have gone a long way to helping me enjoy it for what it is.  Here are some moments / thoughts / feelings I experienced:

1. It was a very chilled pride.  Relaxed and just everyone on that "go with the flow" vibe.  It was an interesting amazing energy
2. I hung out with some very cool men.  They were intelligent, honest and naughty.  Gotta love that!  I see the potential for some very good gay friendships which is awesome
3. The Fireman's ball was good.  Partying is just not my scene anymore.  I am sooooooo a dinner party great wine, great conversation type of guy
4. Awkward moment!  You realise in your circle of friends, that there is the one guy you went on a date with and "he just was not into you" and now you need to hang out with him and his new man!  More Awkard, he does not recognise you or remembers your name.  What is awesome! You  realise the more you are clear on what you want, the perspective that comes from bumping into men it did not work out with is amazing.  You realise it is for the better that you are not with him.  Yay!
5. Every pride is an opportunity to be happy with your fellow boyz and take in the shifts and changes you have been through and that life can be good when you allow it.  We have come a long way with gay rights and that is worth celebrating.  Yay!

I Feel Pretty / Unpretty

We all have those times that we hate looking in the mirror and whatever stares back at us is rather disgusting!  We have those times when we cannot see just how beautiful we are.  For those times, this is where faith in your light, your beauty and that it is all there and really has not left you.  Things change, life changes and how you see the world changes!  But beauty and love remains, it is making our way back to seeing the light and beauty.  Hopefully this song helps make you away back to seeing your beauty that has always and will always be there.  Just allow yourself to see it!  Mwah









But if . . . . .you can't look inside you
Find out who am I to
Be in a position to make me feel so damn  UNPRETTY